Long distance love
by Prabuddha Atukorala
Goodbyes are difficult at most
times. Imagine the situation when you are lying in the arms of the one
you love; only to leave your lover and board the next flight. We all
have had to experience something similar to this and know how painful it
could be.
 Despite the sorrows, you would console your partner by telling
something like “I know when I leave; the distance will keep us apart.
But distance, no matter how far, can’t change these feelings in my
heart.” But we don’t live in fairytale fantasies and putting the above
into practice is not as easy as it may seem.
So for all you who are sailing the rough seas wondering how to win
the heart of your sweetheart and who are interested to know how to ace a
long distance relationship in future this article may offer some
invaluable help.
Things you should do Effective Communication.
With the developments in the technology there are many other
alternatives to the traditional phone call. Instant messenger, emails,
VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective methods to keep
in touch with little cost involved. So make sure you purchase a quality
webcam and headset with microphone.
Be Spontaneous.
Most of us like to be surprised. Sending unexpected gifts to your
partner will always add spice to your distance relationship regardless
how far your lover may be. Your imagination can be put to use and by
sending customized cards, gifts, flowers and even a traditional letter
can do wonders.
Capture and share important events by exchanging photos, video clips,
etc.
Develop a hobby or an area which interests you both.
By this way you will have something new to discuss and work on
throughout your distance relationship. Hence the conversations won’t be
stereotype and boring.
Be understanding.
Realize that due to the difference in time some cases, both of you
will have to adjust lifestyles to allow more time for your beloved. In
other instances due to reasons such as pressure from workplace both of
you might find it difficult to have time even for a small chat.
Areas you should avoid
Don’t doubt your partner.
 The moment you let the seed of doubt enter into the affair it can be
very difficult to revive. No matter what others say have full faith
unless you have hard evidence against your lover. If your partner is the
unfaithful kind, chances are that you could be cheated under your nose
as well. Therefore, there is no need for you to create such unnecessary
stress just because of distance.
Never take the relationship lightly.
The absence of your partner does not give you the licence to dictate
own terms in the relationship. You should allow your true love to be a
part of all important decision makings. Also don’t let the love affair
to drag around. By having such an attitude your partner will suffer
immensely. Hence, if you feel insecure in long distance relationships
please refrain from it.
Don’t go for temporary replacements, and let a third party enter into
your life.
Doing so will not only bring the relationship into jeopardy, but also
will break the mutual trust.
Finally, be weary of all the negative comments you will hear
regarding the chances of making a long distance relationship work.
Sticking to these ideas may improve your bonding, but keep in mind to
always be innovative in the way you express your dearest how much you
love.
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