Today is Mother's Day :
Mother's Day - A Buddhist view
by Rupa BANDUWARDENA
All will agree that there is one among the humanity much adored by
everybody. She is none other than your mother. The world owes much to
her. It is with her the world begins! She gave the universe the unity
never known before. The world suvives with her. She is the finest in the
world. Her mission was a great civilising factor in the world. She is
the most noble being the world has yet produced unsurpassed by anyone.
Next to Buddha the Perfect One, here is a being who sacrifices her
own comforts in the interests of her family. Just as Buddha, the world
she is the guiding spirit to the family. The personality of the mother
towers above all others. She has a wider appeal, in that she has
developed a strong element in human society.
Important concept of Buddhism
The mother occupied a unique place in Buddhism. Siddhartha Gautuma,
the all-wise, all-compassionate world teacher, throughout his life and
in many of his previous births (Bosath) created an important place for
women in society - specially the mother. Many of the Jataka stories are
a unique reflection of religious the tradition depicting the pride of
place given to the mother. All human emotions love, sorrow joy are
depicted in the best form in discourses on mother. The stories of mother
portray no ill-will, anger or disgust. Instead they reflect strong
feelings of love and compassion. Each presents a narration on good
qualities, virtue and moral values. Life stories of one's mother were
focused as examples of good behaviours. Matu Posaka Jathaka is the best
example.
It relates how Bosat kept his mother on his back and swam across the
mighty ocean getting her blessings for future Buddhahood. Another best
known story among the Buddhists is the Vessantara Jatakaya in which the
life of Mandri Jevi, the mother of Jaliya and Krishnajina is an
outstanding example for helping Bosat to fulfil his Dana Paramita.
Amazing stories such as the Thiththira Jatakaya taught them how the
elders should be treated and revered with due care and respect.
The great Master throughout his teachings placed the mother in very
high esteem in the Suttas too. "He who being rich does not support his
mother or father in their old age" is one of the twelve causes of loss
to the losing man in this world. The Buddha has enumerated so, in the
Parabawa sutta.
According to Singalowada Sutta, the Buddha taught a young man how to
adjust himself to his parent's wife, friends and Master. In the
Karaneeya Metta Sutta the stanza "Mata Yatha Niyamputtam .....states
that a mother safeguards her only child sacrificing her own life with
unlimited kindness towards all beings. Buddha said the mother is the
friend at home. i.e. is Mata "Mittam Sakhe Ghase". According to Mangala
Sutta, supporting one's parents, "Mata Pitu Upattanam" is the highest
blessing that one can achieve.
Buddhist Legend and tradition
Buddhism deals with the facts of life. Mother has been the topic of
discussion in the Buddhist legend and tradition. Here the mother's love
is confined not only to her own children but to the others as well which
is evident from the infancy of Prince Siddhartha. Seven days after his
birth when Queen Mahamaya passed away, it was Maha Prajapathi Gotami who
looked after the babe giving preference to him over her two children.
This Buddhist tradition is well depicted. At the request of his foster
mother Maha Prajapathi Gothami the Buddha established the Bhikkuni
Sasana much later where she attained Arahantship and passed away at the
age of 120.
In his attempt to find the gem of truth as an ascetic Prince
Siddhartha underwent and suffering for six long years (Dushkarakkriya).
He was reduced to skin and bone! Queen mother, Mahamaya who was in
heaven Thavuthisa as Mathru Divya Raja' descended on the earth to
support him in his noble quest to relieve universal suffering.
After the supreme Enlightenment, the Buddha visited Thavathimsa to
preach Abhidamma to Marthru in heaven to show his gratitude. Another
important instance, to note is the attainment of Sovan by Rupasara Matha
the mother of Ven. Sariputta the chief disciple of the Buddha.
Foreseeing the good fate of the mother who was at the time a
non-Buddhist and learning that his lifespan will be over. Ven.Sariputta
sought the permission of the Buddha to visit his mother and put her on
the correct path which he did, before his Parinibbana.
Buddhist notion
In Buddhist society the mother is admired as the Buddha at home,
Gedara Budun Amma There is a natural flow of metta' from the mother when
she dedicates herself to the well-being and happiness of her children
with no envy or jealousy whatsoever. Her love is reflected in her when
children are in distress.
It is the mother who makes the child creative, innovative and
enterprising with emphasis on discipline in his or her formative years.
Hence the mother is there throughout one's life even after her demise.
In the Buddhist world everyday is a Mother's day. It is equally
important for children to look after their ageing parents when they
truly need their love and support. Taking care of their parents should
be their bounden duty.
I take this opportunity of bestowing merit acquired by producing this
article (Dhamma Dana) on my precious mother who passed away two years
ago after completing 100 years.
My mother, Lizzy Jaywardena, aged gracefully, reached her 100 years
leading a peaceful life in retirement. A teacher by profession, my
mother belonged to the older generation, genuinely interested in the
welfare of her students. She served in a number of schools in Matara and
Dehiwela. She was in good health until old age fell upon her. We are
certainly a very proud family brought up by my mother after the demise
of my father. Both should be held in high esteem.
She always advocated a life of Buddhist principles with a Buddhist
background. She had accomplished many things within her span of life.
Her life was a work of commitment and dedication towards our family,
friends and relations.
May my parents and all beings be well and happy in their journey of
Sansara until they finally attain the supreme Bliss of Nibbana! |