Make the right choice:
Have control or be controlled
I have been saying repeatedly that the world is becoming a harder
place to live. We have no escape and we can only control the way we
react to challenges that are beyond control of professionals. We are not
insulated from any of the global issues - you are inundated with an
unlimited flow of such negative news every day.
From a local perspective, you hear about a string of unexpected
economic and non-economic issues. If you are like most other people, you
probably spend more time worrying about recent developments having a
direct or indirect impact on your life.
You may be worried about the poor consumption in the market and its
implications on your business, consequent inflationary issues, job
security, escalation of electricity cost, human rights issues, rising
taxes, future of your children, even the weather. Some things we can
control, others we clearly cannot.
Convert negative thoughts into positive thoughts
One of the things you must practise when managing such uncertainty,
ambiguity and anxiety is to understand the issue in its context and
decide if you can do something about.
It's inevitable that any issue regardless of whether they are related
or otherwise, you tend to worry, that's natural human behaviour. So let
it be. But the important factor is that your life has to go on.
You still need to achieve your goals in life - to do this you got to
navigate these challenges with a single focus in mind. So how can you do
it? Correct understanding of the issue is vital to distinguish between
what is impacting you and what is not - and decide what you can control
and what you can't.
Ability to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts is a must to
deal with any challenge. I know this idea sounds simple, but practising
this technique is hard but when effectively practised, it can alleviate
a great deal of unnecessary anxiety and stress.
We have a fair share of our own personal problems and we end up
spending a lot of time and energy to resolve them. The worst thing that
can happen to us is spending time and energy on issues we cannot control
no matter if these issues have an impact on you or not. If you cannot
control just be aware and align yourself, that is the most sensible
thing to do.
Direct energy towards what you can control
Easy to say, but hard to do. Our passion for our work makes it more
difficult to worry selectively. Why? The more passionate you are, the
more protective and perfection-driven you become. Any concern becomes
exaggerated based on your optimistic vision being obstructed.
Regardless of whether or not you have influence, you will want to
tackle every problem as it emerges. This tendency is dangerous. Your
energy becomes fractured as you start to obsess over details and
situations that are beyond your control. Ultimately, your ideas and
plans suffer.
It's said that generally 90 percent of the things people worry about
are beyond their control. You can do your own assessment and figure out
your own percentage is. You may be surprised with your own realisation.
The key to maintaining a positive attitude in life is to know the
difference.
How many times have you been stuck in traffic, been in queues at
government institutions? You felt angry, stressed and uncomfortably over
anxious? Probably more times than you care to think about, but some of
these are things you have no control over, so lighten up, take some deep
breaths, and tell yourself, "I am in control over my feelings, and I
will not let this situation beat me down. I am in charge of how I feel.
I am calm and relaxed."
Obviously this will take practice, but once you get used to this, it
will make a world of difference. When you think about how much damage
these unnecessary stressful situations harm our bodies, raise our blood
pressure, increase frown winkles, ruin our day, it is not worth it, and
it is a battle you need to take on with positive self-talk. Spend your
thoughts on things you can control and think thoughts that bring a smile
to your face, rather than an ugly frown.
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