Decoding depression
Though public understanding of depression has improved somewhat over
the years, we as a society still frequently misunderstand or overlook
depression and its symptoms.
Because of the continuing stigma, we don't always recognize when
people in our lives are struggling with this illness. Worse, too many
people go undiagnosed because of erroneous assumptions about how
depression manifests and what to look for.
We need to unlearn the assumption that suffering is always clearly
visible to us, so that we can better understand and help those who
struggle with illnesses that go unseen. Here are some signs that someone
might have hidden depression.
They might not 'look depressed'
Due to media and cultural stereotypes, most of us have assumptions
about how someone behaves and looks if they're struggling with
depression. We imagine someone who rarely leaves their room, doesn't
dress themselves well, and constantly looks miserable, but people with
depression do not all behave in the same way. Many are able to keep up a
facade of good mental health to protect themselves, but they aren't
suffering any less simply because they can do this.
They may often seem exhausted or complain about always being tired
A prevalent side effect of depression is constant exhaustion. Not
everyone with the disorder struggles with it, but it's extremely common.
For those who experience this symptom with their depression, it's often
one of the hardest side effects to cope with. Also, if someone is living
with an undiagnosed depression disorder, the cause of their exhaustion
can be baffling. They can get plenty of sleep each night and still wake
up every morning feeling like they only slept a few hours. Worse, they
may blame themselves, believing it to be laziness or some other personal
fault that's causing their low energy levels.
They can be unusually irritable
A depressed person's behaviour might be interpreted as melancholy
even if that's not what they're really feeling. Irritability is a
frequently overlooked symptom of depression that is also very common.
This should be understandable, since depression is a health problem you
can't 'see' or strictly measure, making it hard to combat. The constant
work it takes to keep up all the necessary aspects of life while dealing
with depression also drains the person, and leaves little room for
patience or understanding.
They could have a tough time responding to affection and concern
The main misconception about depression, is that it's about 'feeling'
sad. On the contrary, depression is mostly not feeling anything, or only
partially and briefly experiencing emotions. It depends on the
individual, but some people with depression report feeling almost
'numb', and the closest thing to an emotion they experience is a kind of
sadness and/or irritation. Because of this, appropriately responding to
gestures or words of affection will be difficult for them, or they just
don't think about it any more.
They may even get irrationally irritated or annoyed with you over it,
because it may simply be too difficult for their brains to process and
respond to your loving gestures.
They might frequently turn down activities they used to love or would
otherwise enjoy
Unless other explanations could equally be possible, an
uncharacteristic lack of interest in activities over an extended period
of time could be a sign that someone has depression. Depression is just
as physically draining as it is mentally draining, which makes enjoying
all the things you usually do difficult.
They can develop abnormal eating habits
Abnormal eating habits mainly develop for two reasons: as a form of
coping, or as a side effect of lack of self-care. Eating too little or
too much is a common sign of depression.
Overeating is often shamed the most, when food can be the one source
of pleasure a depressed person is able to give themselves and thus
causes them to eat excessively. When a depressed person is eating too
little, it's often because their depression is affecting their appetite
and making eating unappealing.
It can also be a subconscious need to control something, since they
cannot control their depression.
They may start needing more from you
A depressed person legitimately can't function like a mentally health
person.
There will be things they will no longer be able to do as much of, as
often, or at all. Pestering or shaming them about it will only hurt, not
help. If they've been keeping their depression private, it will be that
much harder to deal with others getting irritated with them because they
can't perform at the level that's expected of mentally healthy people.
They can have bad days, and 'better' days
Depression can have its ups and downs. If someone has hidden or
undiagnosed depression, they might seem like they get random mood
swings, depending on if their depression is consistent or not. To you
(and to them, if they are undiagnosed), the changes in mood seem without
cause, but it's simply how some people's depression manifests.
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