Audrey Hepburn’s secret to:
Living a Happy Life
‘I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I
like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the
most important thing in a person.
“Pick the day. Enjoy it – to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as
they come… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present – and
I don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.’
Back in the old days, when movies were shot in black and white – and
later on too – Audrey Hepburn was one of the biggest stars in Hollywood.
Not only did she win an Oscar for ‘Roman Holiday’, she was also an
ambassador for UNICEF and she’s a timeless fashion icon.
what was Hepburn’s secret for living a happy life? Here are her top
1. Your outside is a reflection of the inner you.
“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips,
speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge
that you are never alone.”
This a wonderful quote and a very true one.
How other people see you aren’t just about cheekbones and a good
sense of style. People view people through filters in their minds.
*A kind person may seem more handsome when you get to know him.
*A handsome person may suddenly not seem that attractive as you are
confronted with her negative attitude.
And this goes for pretty much any meeting or relationship you have
What you feel and think has a big impact not only on you. It’s also
spread to the people around you.
Emotions are contagious. And people form opinions about others
oftentimes in subtle and almost unconscious ways. Now, this may sound a
bit silly or like it’s not of that great importance. But try this for
*Assume rapport just before a meeting.
*Focus on the good and positive things you can find and appreciate in
the person you are meeting.
You’ll find that overall they respond very differently than if you
are negative and have a distant attitude towards them. It’s sometimes
almost like speaking to two different people.
Because people tend to mirror and reflect – the gestures, mood and
attitude – and adapt to each other very often in interactions.
Of course, it’s not always easy to look for the good in others, speak
only kind words or to not put up walls in your mind between you and
others. Sometimes you just have bad days.
But keep Hepburn’s thought in mind and make use of it when you can.
Because whatever that is inside of you is always shining out and
through in one way or another.
2. Don’t worry about what others may think of you.
“I never think of myself as an icon. What is in other people’s minds
is not in my mind. I just do my thing.”
One of the biggest parts of doing what you really want is to stop
caring so much about what other people think of you.
A lot of the actions you take – or do not take – may be because you
need approval from other people.
When we are young we get grades in school that tells us that we are
‘good’. This makes it very easy to create a life where you always go
looking for the world to give you the next hit of approval.
It may be from your family, boss, friends, co-workers and so on. But
this need creates neediness.
And the stronger the need the stronger the neediness. And so other
people will sense this. And approval may be withheld or used to
manipulate you. Or they may just not like your neediness.
The people on the other hand that do not care that much about getting
approval often do more of what they want deep inside. They may be
considered courageous for instance. So the way they live their lives
will gain appreciation and approval from the people around them.
Action-tip: But how do you stop caring so much about what people may
The best thing for that is simply to realize they honestly don’t care
that much about what you do or say.
They are focused on their own challenges, their partners, kids and
jobs and what you and others may think of them.
3. Finally getting something may not be all it’s cracked up to be.
“Success is like reaching an important birthday and finding you’re
exactly the same.”
Often we wish for something. A new job or promotion, a new
relationship or perhaps a new pair of shoes. And you think: “if I only
get this thing, then I’m home, then I’ll feel happy and good all
And then you get it. And it’s awesome. But often for just a while.
And then you may feel like maybe something went a bit wrong. Like it
didn’t fulfill you or complete you like you thought it would.
*You get used to it. After while when you get used to something, when
it becomes normal, then the ego tends to want more once again.
*You are still the same. You can’t enjoy something for what it is
because even though your environment changes, you are still the same.
With the same self-imposed barriers for your own success and happiness
and maybe self-sabotaging behaviour. And until you take a look at those
things you may find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over.
*Any success is often accompanied by unexpected and not always so
pleasant side effects. Things may seem just perfect when you dream about
them. In reality, it can become a little more complicated and messy.
Now, new things or people can be great.
But if you think this one success or event you are looking forward to
in life will fix all your problems or if you focus on the wrong aspects
– what is not perfect, how can I get more etc. – instead of the
positives and gratitude then you may find yourself always looking for
the next thing and create quite a bit of stress and unhappiness within.
(Henrik Edberg is a 34-year-old journalism major
from Sweden, who has dived into the topic of personal development, which
has seen him learning from him own experiments and experience and
figuring out how to build a better life. This article is one of his
building a better life experiences)