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Your aspirations may not have anything to do with being a Secretary. But a recent seminar on "How to be an effective Secretary" conducted by the Institute of Personnel Management, threw some interesting highlights about being a good Secretary, that is also applicable to everyday living.

According to Jayadeva De Silva, Human Resource Director, Browns Group of Companies, who was one of the lecturers, the Top Ten Things to Give in order to improve inter-personal relations are!

Your Time:

How many of you are too busy with your own lives to give your time to others? Being busy is an excuse and a reason not to go out of your way. People need you and love you. Let them in. Let them have time with you.

Your Support:

How many of you really support the people in your life? What I mean by support is encouragement and reason to try something new, not 10 different reasons why it won't work. Just because it didn't work for you, doesn't mean it won't work for them. And just because it didn't work for them in the past, doesn't mean that it won't work this time.

There's nothing better than telling a person that they can do whatever they want in this world.

Your Acceptance:

This may be a toughie for some of you. This means unconditional love and the ability to love someone for who they are and not what you want them to be. It means giving up how you think their life should go, and accepting them for what they want to do with their lives. This is the greatest gift that you can give to the people in your life.

Your Attention:

How many of you really listen to the people in your life? For everyone who just said, "of course I do" then why do you often times have to ask other people, friends or even family members, to repeat what they just said?

Take a few minutes, stop what you are doing, and focus on the people who you love.

Aren't they worth it?

And who knows, you may even learn something new that you thought you already knew.

Your Forgiveness:

Forgiving people for past mistakes and hurts is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. After all they are only human. Plus, I'm sure that you haven't been the perfect human being either. Keeping hurt and anger in your life is just an excuse not to get close to people for fear that they will hurt you again.

Your Patience:

How many of you can't even be with the people you love because they are taking too long to tell a story or are taking longer than "You think" to complete a project that you think should take less time to get done. How do you know that there isn't a better way to do something if the people around you always have to do it your way? Having patience with people shows them that they are respected and loved. Isn't this a great gift to give for the new year.

Your Love:

People want to know that they are special in your life and that you care about them. If there are things that are keeping you from loving them such as conversations that you want to have with them. But you are afraid, my advice is to say it. Sometimes you have to take a risk to achieve an open and rewarding relationship. Take the risk and give your love.

Your Ideas.

Sometimes people want to move forward in their lives but they don't know how. You may know something that they never thought of. And who knows, your ideas may change somebody's life. So go ahead, don't be afraid to share what you know.

Your Smile:

There is nothing better that entering a room and seeing someone smile when you walk in. Right then and there you know that your presence makes a difference in their life. A smile is easy. You just grin upward. Plus, you burn many more calories than from frowning.

A Hug:

Human touch warms the heart and keeps us connected. In addition, it doesn't take much effort, it costs nothing, and it makes someone's day. Couldn't you find time in your schedule to hug someone you love today.

The seminar covered lectures on personal development, role of the secretary in the office, how to be a disciplined secretary, effective communication, correspondence etc. Participants were refreshed with several new techniques that make life at work and home a lot easier. It was good fun too.

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