 How popular are you in the workplace?
by Amal Hewavissenti
Perhaps the best way to become an appreciated member in a workplace
is to correctly identify your own responsibilities or duties and to
carry them into effect. As most of us are employed in a workplace, we
fall under the unwritten law that we should be appealing to and be indispensible to others in the same institution in order to win hearts.
For that, we should possess inspiring personality traits that anybody
can build within himself with dedication. To put it in simple words, the
personality of someone is the level of his extraordinary capacity to
attract others and to blend positively into his surroundings. To build
up a brilliant personality, you have to climb up a ladder of several
steps systematically. The surefire key to open this gate of popularity
is within your own dedication and need to nurture positive feelings and
emotions. Just give vent to creativity and develop the latent skills
which bring out the most popular man in you.
Never glorify yourself
 Nothing spoils one’s self-image as one’s tendency to overate one’s
abilities or social status to be noticeable to others.
Though you may be a special person with rare talents, you are not to
speak, even indirectly about them with whoever you meet.
If this is continued, the ultimate result is that your friends will
reject you because you have devalued yourself and your talents by giving
unnecessary value to them! Instead, you can behave in the way that
everybody is ready to honestly admire those qualities and talents. In
other words, as long as somebody with marked talents remains silent
about them, others will inevitably lavish praises, admiration and
respect on him. Let others speak about them and that is where your true
value emerges. Moreover, you can be a highly admirable person by being
ready to appreciate the best qualities and talents in those around you.
Be a good listener
This is a somewhat different aspect of one’s personality. This is
most important when moving in with a group of people in an office. The
level of one’s ability to listen attentively to what another may say
brings equal level of popularity to one. Simply maximising the amount of
listening and minimising one’s own bragging will assuredly prove to be
worthwhile and it will give priceless suggestions to rectify oneself.
 Another way to earn a good name in the workplace is to shun
unpleasant or annoying words from your vocabulary and to speak in a way
that captivates everybody’s mind. Here, telling lies, telling tales or
using abusive speech can undermine one’s sound status in the workplace.
Be liberal to admire the talents and good qualities of others and
talk much about them. Avoid wearing glasses of prejudice when talking
about another’s mistakes and do not let anybody to colour your opinion
against another. You can point out someone’s mistakes quite amiably and
it should be in the form of constructive criticism rather than
malevolent remarks.
Never sympathise but empathise
Being empathetic means one’s ability to share feelings of and look at
a problem of another with earnestness. If you can mentally plunge into
another’s problematic situation, you can feel the gravity and offer a
convincing solution to come out of it. This will earn you much stability
and trustworthiness which others will find dependable both in the
workplace and in personal life. What the person in trouble wants is not
a passive sympathy but rather a practical solution and a remedial course
of action to make up for what he has lost personally.
Wear a smile - be soughtafter
 A pleasant smile will definitely ease you of your worries or troubles
of overwork and earns you much needed magnetism to grab the attention of
your friends and even superiors. If you can keep up a mesmerising smile
while dealing with others, they will find you an extremely agreeable
person.
Take special care to do what you always do in a agreeably novel way
which will make you have a sense of fulfilment and of being important.
This way you can get other’s appreciative attention by speaking politely
and decently to them. |
