Ten steps to New Year's Resolution success
by Sandy Olene
Does the very idea of declaring a New Year's resolution make you
cringe, or does it bring a sense of hope for change in the upcoming
year?
January can be a time of reflection. Think about the past year: You
can learn from your experiences and renew your priorities and goals.
Are you a part of the 40 percent who create New Year's resolutions
for yourself, or do you avoid creating resolutions because past
resolutions went unfulfilled? It might be easiest to give up, or not
even start writing goals due to past "failures." Maybe you have
convinced yourself that you just can't change, so what's the point in
trying?
How do you let go of the past to create space for possibilities in
your future?
Many people are stuck in a cycle of self-defeating behaviour that can
paralyse them from making any forward movement in their lives, from
achieving the things that are important. Make this time of year work for
you by creating an environment that supports positive change and forward
movement towards goal or resolutions.
Ten ways to cultivate an environment for success:
* Be aware of self-defeating thoughts. When a negative thought enters
your mind, visualize yourself setting it aside and not giving it any
energy. Letting negative thoughts swirl in your mind may be a habit. It
takes energy to continue that negative thought swirl. Think about the
possibilities that could happen if you free up your energy by stopping
the negative thought swirl. Try writing your thoughts out on paper.
Create two columns. In the left column, write those ever-present
negative thoughts. Then in the right column, write down its opposite a
positive self-statement. Once you have finished, read and reread the
positive thoughts list. Spend your energy focusing on the positive.
Change your mind; change your life.
* Spend your energy on things you can control and less (or no) energy
on things you cannot control. You cannot control other people or that
which has occurred in the past. You can control your reactions to
people, and you can control what you do in the present moment.
Allow yourself the space to create possibilities for the future by
focusing on what you can do at this very moment. The future begins right
now.
* Write things down. Write out a weekly schedule. Try to get your
daily activities into somewhat of a routine. Let that routine do the
heavy lifting for you. Make copies of your weekly schedule, and place it
in the high-traffic areas of your house.
* Communicate with your inner support network. Schedule a weekly
family meeting. Share your weekly schedule with them. Have an
expectations conversation. It can be a two-way street. Talk about what
your family can expect from you during the week and what you can expect
from your family.
* Build from your successes, no matter how small. Create the
foundation with small increments of change. Be happy with your progress,
reward yourself, and make it fun!
* Keep a gratitude journal.
* Know that your environment affects you, which can be positive or
negative. Your family and friends help shape your values and behaviors,
so surround yourself with people who can give you a boost, not drag you
down.
* Implement radical self-care. Being a student at WGU and juggling
all the other priorities in your life can take a lot of energy. Make
yourself the priority, so that you can work at your optimal level in all
areas of your life. Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night. Schedule
the recommended 150 minutes of exercise into your weeks. Eat healthily.
Go in for those yearly checkups.
* Learn how to say 'no'. No is not a bad word. Learning to say "no"
to requests of your time can free up the space you need to can take
better care of yourself and avoid burnout.
* When something does not go according to plan or a mistake has been
made, dust yourself off and jump back on the horse. It does you no good
to beat yourself up over past mistakes. Make a point to learn from your
mistakes and move on, move forward.
-WGU
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