'Menage a Trois'

This true story was told to Nilma Dole...:

Many would open their mouths in shock and horror at this French word also called a group of three people. Even those elderly folk with conservative ideals and hush-hush talk would find this article very appaling. However, in this modern age, we shouldn't turn a blind eye to all that is happening around us.

Often those narrow-minded thinkers would regard the taboo word as a horrendous thing that only happened in brothels and VIP hotels where only floozies indulged in this practice. However nowadays, don't be surprised if you find your own child or spouse maybe being part of this new 'in-thing' without your knowledge.

Of course, it can be due to various reasons, from experimenting sexually with oneself to doing something memorable just before marriage. It can also be with certain special people or can be for some fun.

I first enountered my first three group thing when I was touring abroad as the result of participating in sporting activities I did at college. Being all young and experimental in those days, I ventured and sought to finally do it as the ultimate experience I could ever get abroad. I, like my peers felt that doing it in Sri Lanka wasn't 'ethical' and so was quite thrilled at these exciting prospects.

It started with partying really hard into the wee hours of the morning. Yet it was quite dark and I finally chatted up with two women or 'chicks' as I referred whom I met at the nightclub. They were foreigners too and that made it even better and less guilty. Basically my thoughts were, we were visitors and we had the right to have fun in a foreign land.

As a macho man, I have this thing against being with a woman in the presence of a nude man. It ruins my candour and also makes me feel degraded fearing the competition around. So I jumped at the opportunity of taking these lovely ladies back to my hotel room.

We opened a bottle of champagne compliments of the hotel and I turned on the stereo filling the place with soothing Jazz music. The women were good friends and told me that they got along fine and it was definitely not their first experience.

So I thought to myself that I was lucky to be in the company of experienced women even though in the back of my mind, I feared 'would they judge me by my performance and most importantly, will I be good?'

I didn't have time to worry about that, because these ladies went down straight to business telling that they didn't have much time to waste.

I was actually a tad bit clueless but I played along. There was alot of vigourous activity from both sides and me, be being a real player on field and off it, played my role in this drama.

It blew my mind, seriously! I was thinking to myself that I really was the luckiest person of the moment and I remember I wished this euphoric feeling would last forever. And even if it did finish, I'd savour it for my whole life. The experience was amazing and I really was happy I did it.

I don't believe that such a thing could ruin anyone's life and make them bad in any way. However, as a person with values, I strongly advise everyone NOT to indulge in it once you get married or have a steady partner since it only brings you a feeling of guilt.

I was young and it helped me understand more about myself. Ideally, it has helped me understand about the effects and joys of the opposite sex better. Being with two more makes you feel more concerned and sensitive to their needs. Even though you can't satisfy both of them together you can at least try and they will naturally go with the flow.

The rest will eventually fall in place. I have no regrets.

Today I lead a wonderful marital life and my spouse is an understanding and a caring partner. I am happy I did it and finished it all when I was young. And it was alright I think in my view that I did it and experienced it once and for all instead of cheating on my partner.