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Have you ever heard the term EQ, (Emotional Quotient)? You might probably be familiar with IQ (Intelligence Quotient) and you already know it is the yardstick to measure your level of intelligence. It’s widely accepted in society that if you score high marks in IQ tests, your success level in life is higher than those who rank below you.

Does a person with high IQ, in layman’s language a person with high academic qualifications and known to be an intellectual, always handle situations wisely? Doesn’t he get angry and lose self control? Doesn’t he become stressed, depressed, anxious and disgusted. Is he a person who never quarrels with others? Doesn’t he become moody and retaliate from others when he is exhausted? Hasn’t he set unrealistic and unattainable high profile goals?

Isn’t he driven by the motives of power hunger and insatiable need for recognition? If you have a close look at that academia’s character, you would find above emotions in him in no less quantity.How, then can you say such an academia plus an intellectual is `intelligent’ enough to cope with day to day life? If your answer is something like this “he is academically intelligent. But he too is confronted with day to day problems and reacts in a naturally aggressive way as an ordinary”, then he is not emotionally intelligent.

Today, society is changing rapidly; so is your workplace. A new yardstick is needed to measure your adaptability to your workplace. If you possess only a sound level of IQ and high academic qualifications, that alone would not determine your professional success.

Researchers have found that a good level of `Emotional Intelligence’ makes up the person’s professional and personal success in life.High IQ level and qualifications may hire you, a good EQ level will promote you in the corporate ladder. It can also be said `A good IQ level will hire you.

A poor EQ level will fire you.’ EQ (Emotional Quatient) means all about managing your emotions. Many people with high IQ academic qualification and less EQ fail in life than those with less IQ or poor education with high EQ. If I’m to cite an example, a politician with less IQ or with less educational qualifications would probably win people’s hearts and be popular and become much sought after.

The importance of developing a good EQ is that people with high EQ are happier, healthier and successful in their relationship with others. They will also be able to handle themselves and others. Stastics show that IQ accounts for only about 20% of a person success in life and the rest for EQ.

A person with low level of EQ would be too sensitive and take everything personally. He is often jealous of others, always in a hostile mood, does not understand the feelings of others and nagging others. Successful people like politicians, bureaucrats, professionals, and religious leaders have a high level of Emotional Intelligence.

EQ can be defined as your ability to understand what feels good, what feels bad and how to turn your bad feelings into good ones. The ingredients which comprise EQ are self-awareness, being able to manage your moods, motivate yourself, social skills such as cooperation and leadership.

If you can supersede emotional based on components to be used accurately and at the right time, you’ll be able to adjust to your ork place and you’ll most likely reduce professional as well as personal enemies.

Research in neurobiology has shown that human beings operate from two minds - the rational mind and the emotional mind. The latter is also called the primitive mind and is the source of basic emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, lust, surprise, disgust etc.

The harmony between the emotional mind and rational mind contributes to Emotional Intelligence which is the key to a richer and more fulfilling life. Courtesy: American Psychologist

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