Dear Erica
Dear Erica,
I’m a 19-year-old guy. I have a pair of long upper canine teeth in my
mouth (longer than normal) which has been giving me mental torment from
my childhood. My family and friends have gotten used to it but every
time I smile, they get a shock and shudder at the sight of seeing my
monster teeth. I feel that I am cursed and sometimes this irritation is
driving me crazy. I have awful nicknames among my friends like
‘Werewolf’, ‘Sabre-toothed’ and ‘Beast’.
Even though they do not mean any harm by calling me like that, I am
deeply hurt by it. Shall I get rid of my canine teeth neglecting the
damage it can bring to my face? How can I live with it? Please give a
solution.
- Cursed
Dear Cursed,
I’m sorry that you have to go through uncomfortable situations
because of having canine teeth. We are all made in a special way but not
cursed. The most difficult part is learning to accept oneself as one is,
to love and respect yourself for who you are in your outer and inner
make. Once you’ve overcome the fact that you can accept yourself, then
it’s easier to deal with the rest.
However, if you consider shaping up your teeth, I would suggest you
get some advice from a dental professional and go through the options
you’ve been offered. You need to be aware of all the complications, side
effects and benefits that you will get out of it.
Go through them carefully and be fully informed about what you’re
getting yourself into. But you have to always know that good looks does
not always count and there are loads of people out there who’ve shown
that a strong and vibrant personality can do magic and make you stand
out in a crowd. So, on the other hand if you’re strong enough to accept
your weakness and determined to live with it go ahead, be yourself! The
choice is in your hands.
Dear Erica,
I am 28-year-old guy from a respectable family and I don’t have any
respect for girls from my childhood. I feel that they’re unrespectable,
they don’t know what they are talking about and laugh loudly. So I have
always refused to be in their company from the time I was schooling.
I do respect my female family members to some extent. As my mother
was a school teacher, I always respected and liked school teachers. So I
want to marry a school teacher. My parents are bringing in numerous
proposals but I don’t want to accept them since I always wanted to marry
a teacher.
-The Teacher Effect
Dear Teacher Effect,
If you want to marry a teacher then you have to tell your parents
about your wishes and ask them to look for one who would eventually be
your life partner. But at the same time, you have to work on changing
your attitude regarding women. I think your opinion that all women
except your family and teachers are unrespectable, loud and poor
communicators is rather immature on your part.
I presume you’ve had a very close relationship with your mother and
you are a Mama’s boy? Is this why you hold a high opinion of only
teachers and not others? What if you actually find a teacher and she
turns out to be not as you imagined? What if Ms. Right comes your way
and she’s not a teacher? Is it her that you love, respect and cherish or
is it her profession? So take time to rethink your options, to change
your attitudes and be a bit more practical. All the best to you!
Dear Erica
I am an A/L commerce student who will take the exam in two years. I
still have no clue about what I wish to do for my higher studies. Most
of my student friends have future plans, but I’m just undecided. I think
by having a goal now it would guide me into the right path. I have
already decided to do teaching as a part-time career after my A/L and to
probably follow a degree in human resources (HR) management. The idea of
doing HR came up to me recently, and I doubt whether I will even stick
to it. Please advise.
-The A/L Student
Dear A/L Student,
Most students in your age go through similar problems. They tend to
get a bit confused about what they want to do, what they really like to
do or what options they have in their hands. This is why you find
youngsters going back to university or higher education even after they
get themselves employed or become mature. Don’t get confused or stressed
over the fact that you don’t have a goal to start with.
You’ve already showed some interest in teaching and Human Resource
management so at least you’re thinking and going through your options.
It’s important to clear your doubts and work through your set
objectives. It’s also important for you to analyze your skills and
competencies in order to find out what you would really like to do after
you’re A/L exam. Meanwhile, there’s an exam to study so get back to your
books and try to get some good grades. Good luck!
Erica’s Quote of the Week:-
‘By three methods we may learn wisdom:
first, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is
easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest’ - Confucius
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