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If performance is your goal:

Distinguish between the controllable and uncontrollable

Unity, solidarity, empathy, collaboration, cohabitation, helping each other and making sacrifices for others are all good attributes and they should remain forever ideally add more such nice attributes to the list.

It's these human feelings that make the world so beautiful and lively. However, you would agree that it's equally important for each individual to make a contribution to the well-being of society. It's therefore important that each one of us focuses on what we are expected to deliver and operate within the scope to honour our commitment to others.

Avoid dead ends

Thinking about, spending time and energy on things you can't control as an individual puts unnecessary burden on you and direct your power towards a dead end. If I may ask you; why should you worry about how bad the global economy is? You can voice your opinion about it but there is nothing you can do about it.

No matter how much you think about it, nothing will change.

Take another example closer to your heart. Why should you spend too much of your time thinking and talking about the poor performance of our cricket team against Pakistan in the ongoing tournament in Dubai. You might have a counterargument. Yes, we are a part and parcel of our country and society so we cannot disconnect ourselves from matters relevant to us.

I do not disagree, but all I'm saying is; don't let external events you have no control over hamper your own performance. After all you are expected to perform well in your job. So you will create value for yourself and/or others only if you keep things you can control or do something about, your priority.

Mostly you worry about uncontrollable events due to lack of performance or failure of those events.

Does your worry help that situation? Look at the psychological effect on you when you empathise too much with something that has less relevance to you. Don't you feel down as well? Where does that feeling take you? Leave your emotions aside and find a rational answer.

Focus on a critical few not everything

The simpler your life is, the fewer things you could worry about. So instead of doing a lot of things, focus on the few things that are most fulfilling and give you the most return for your time and effort. You might have made mistakes in the past and be still worrying about the consequences. Don't let your worry drag you down. Change your attitude, accept responsibility and move on. You still have a lot of great things waiting for you, within your purview.

Attitude of gratitude is necessary

Given our inherent behaviour, it's natural to focus on things that could go wrong and forget about the many things that have worked well for you. So it's important to have an attitude of gratitude.

It keeps your perspective in balance. It makes you realise that for one thing that goes wrong, there are many more things that go right if you spend your time and energy on your own scope of work.

Optimism is good only when calibrated with reality

Optimism within controllable parameters is a must but mind you; pure imagination is a double-edged sword. You can use it to dream big things and keep your aim very high, but it can also discourage you.

I do not buy in the philosophy that anyone can achieve anything in life. But at the same time not unleashing the full potential to do your best is a waste. Making the double-edged sword single edged with the right balance has a greater probability of yielding the desired result.

Cannot control?

Still your job - then have faith Let me repeat; you should focus on things you can control. But what about things you can't control? What can we do to eliminate any worry about them? The answer here is faith. You need to believe that everything will go well no matter how bad it might seem at the beginning. Having faith eliminates a lot of worries in your life and gives you the attitude to take better control. It disciplines you and gives you peace of mind.

 

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