How to get anything you want in life

The sum total of our beliefs and behaviour, constitutes our life: that vital existence; the course of active human subsistence; human affairs. Life is all about give and take, preferably more giving than taking.

To get anything you want in life, you must first accept who you are; and take responsibility for everything that you do. Once this ability to acknowledge, admit, and be accountable to the selves is cultivated and established as an inherent characteristic of the self; then, and only then, go forth and dare to declare to the world, that you are the best and what you are doing is the best.

The truth is that once the faculties to accept, acknowledge, and be answerable are cultivated as an essential trait of us; then everyone, and each one of us, is best in their own right and ways. It was Oscar Wilde, that eccentric and brilliant Irish writer and poet, who wrote - "To live, is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist, that is all."

Why should you expect anything less than the best from the gifts that others have to offer when you know you are doing your very best? Being the best does not have to mean being better than anyone else. You are different but best in your own way. When you dare to declare that you are the best, you are saying that you are adequate. You do not feel less. You feel perfectly complete. You may be selfish, impatient, and a little insecure sometimes; make mistakes, be out of control and at times hard to handle.

If so, it is proof that you are making an effort in life, and at living. But to deserve the best, try to manage and control yourself at your worst; and if you do, you sure will be worthy of the best. Never tell your problems to anyone because 20 percent of those to whom you tell, do not care; and the other 80 percent are glad you have them. Always remember that it is better that one be hated for what one is, than to be loved for what one is not. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, do not matter; and those who matter do not mind.

Greatness

When you see others declaring their own greatness, do you feel resistance on the inside in anyway? If so, what you feel is not about them; but it is about yourself. When you allow yourself to acknowledge your own greatness, you necessarily need to allow others to acknowledge theirs. The main rule to observe is, to thy own self be true, or follow thy own true will. It does not matter at all, as to what others say about you. It does not matter most what you say about others.

What only matters is, what you say about yourself. You are the creator of the reality you observe about you. If you speak badly about the creator, that is you; then a bad creator will only create a bad reality. Forget about the external world and your judgements about it. It all begins with you. You must judge yourself favourably. The less you use your word against yourself, the less you would use it against others. The first step to treating the world better is to treat the self, better. Both you and the world are one. The outer is merely a reflection of the inner. Love yourself truly.

There is only one sure way to get anything you want in life; and that is with the cooperation of other people. Without the cooperation of others, you would never get a job, go out on a date, or have any friend. To gain cooperation, you have to use covert persuasion to get it - a tactic that allows you to get anything you want through your own acts or by subconsciously commanding others to render it to you. Most people try to persuade others by rationalising with them.

That does not always work. At times, you can try to argue with someone to get what you want. Usually, even that will not work.

When you make decisions, you like to think you are weighing the options carefully, looking at all the possibilities, and making the best choice based on a rational examination of the facts. In truth, much of the decision making just happens on a subconscious level based on feelings we might not even be aware of. Understanding and managing those subconscious feelings is the key to the art of persuasion. By simply observing and predicting human behaviour, you can learn to react and direct behaviour in others with the right kinds of words and body language.

You are simply using all your abilities to encourage them to make the choice you want them to make. Even so, if you fail, simply remember what Alexander Graham Bell said: When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.

Admire

"Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty; therefore admire it. Life is a dream, so go forth, and realise it. Life is a challenge; hence meet it. Life is a duty; complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise; fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song; sing it. Life is a struggle; accept it.

Life is a tragedy; confront it. Life is an adventure; dare it. Life is luck; make it. Life is too precious; do not destroy it. Life is life, fight for it." said Mother Teresa. When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry; show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. Life is not about finding yourself.

It is about creating yourself. As we grow up, we learn that even the one person who was not supposed to, ever let us down; probably will. You will have your heart broken and you will break others' hearts. You will fight with your best friend or maybe, even fall in love with one of them; and you will cry because time is flying by.

So go on, make too many friends, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love as though you have never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, and no second chances. You just have to live life to the fullest, tell people what they mean to you, and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts.

Never be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

Live your life your way. Find it, own it, live it; and to get anything you want in life, never use your word against yourself.

See you this day next week. Until then, keep thinking; keep laughing. Life is mostly about these two activities.

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