The best way to develop is to coach yourself
Coaching is a constant, active process of transformation and creation
in which you ask yourself questions, you listen, think, decide and act
and then you do it all over again as a never-ending story.
It is a process in which the coach brings his passion, desire and
power to materialise and maximise his abilities and potential to fully
express himself and achieve extraordinary goals.
Self-coaching is something I do all the time.
I always think , listen to my body and learn from the environment
around me. This is a tremendous boon to drive oneself forward and to
make sure the goals being pursued serve the heart's desire, for as they
say in the industry, 'Success without fulfillment means nothing'.
Visualise what you want
Here are a few suggestions to coach yourself. As you read them, you
may come up with other ideas of your own. If so, write them down and
make sure you use them. There is strong empirical evidence to suggest
that goals that are written down are more likely to be reached.
In fact, the more you write about your goals, the greater your
chances of success. The more closely you can visualise exactly what you
want, the more likely you will make it happen. This means not just
daydreaming but visualising, imagining yourself really in the situation
you wish will materialise.
There is no point in setting yourself goals that you think you ought
to achieve, if deep inside you actually don't want to achieve them.
If you feel yourself resisting working towards a particular goal,
don't beat yourself up about it but take some time and space to look
carefully at what is happening. Why are you resisting? Is that the goal
what you truly want? Or what your parents or friends think you would
want? It's a cliché to say follow your heart but in the end, this is the
only way to be happy.
Positive self talk
Once you've decided what you really want, focus on it. This focus,
which is sharpened by writing your goals, is what will carry you through
to success, provided of course, you remember you are focusing on a
future reality that you are in the process of bringing about, rather
than on some impossible dream.
The importance and value of positive self-talk cannot be
overestimated. If you're constantly telling yourself you can't do it, it
will be exceedingly difficult for you to overcome this. If you believe
you can do it, you can. Again, something of a cliché but it's absolutely
true.
Take time for yourself
It's a common misconception that treating oneself well is selfish.
Actually, if you spend too long sacrificing yourself for other people,
you'll find you have very little left to offer them. If looking after
yourself seems too self-indulgent to you, remember that you need to
replenish your reserves if you are going to be able to look after other
people well. And that means regularly taking time for yourself.
Take time alone to be quiet. Take time to pursue activities you enjoy
but that may not be 'useful'. For example, hobbies, chatting to friends,
going to the theatre. Sort out the little things that annoy you about
your environment. Challenge yourself from time to time.
If you regularly leave your comfort zone, you'll find it expands, so
that things that would once have scared you, you can now take in your
stride. There is a great deal you can do for yourself by yourself. You
owe it to yourself and to the world to treat yourself kindly and to
fulfill your potential.
I wish all my Biz Talk readers Merry Christmas. Enjoy and stay safe
this season.
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