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Focus on what could be controlled

Thinking about, spending time and energy on things you can't control as a person puts an unnecessary burden on you and directs your power towards a dead end. Why should you worry about how bad the global economy is? You can voice your opinion about it but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

No matter how much you think about it, nothing will change. Take another example closer to your heart. Why should you spend too much of your time thinking and talking about the poor performance of our cricket team against Pakistan in the tournament in Dubai.

You might have a counter argument. Yes, we are a part and parcel of our country and society so we cannot disconnect ourselves from matters relevant to us. I do not disagree but all I'm saying is, don't let external events you have no control over hamper your own performance.

After all you are expected to perform well in your job. You will create value for yourself and or others only if you keep things you can control or do something about, your priority.

You mostly worry about uncontrollable events due to lack of performance or failure of those events. Does your worry help the situation? Look at the psychological effect on you when you empathise too much with something that has less relevance to you. Don't you feel down as well? Where does that feeling take you? Leave your emotions aside and find a rationale answer.

Focus on a few things

The simpler your life is, the fewer things you need to worry about. So instead of doing a lot of things, focus on the few things that are most fulfilling and give you the most return on your time and effort.

You might have made mistakes in the past and be still worrying about the consequences. Don't let your worry drag you down. Change your attitude, accept responsibility and move on. You still have a lot of great things waiting for you, within your purview.

Attitude

Given people's inherent behaviour, it is natural to focus on things that could go wrong and forget about the many things that have worked well for you. So it is important to keep your perspective in balance.

It makes you realise that for a thing that goes wrong, there are many more things that go right if you spend your time and energy on your own scope of work.

Optimism within controllable parameters is a must. But pure imagination is a double-edged sword. You can use it to dream big things and keep your aim very high, but it can also discourage you. I do not buy the philosophy that anyone can achieve anything in life. But at the same time not unleashing the full potential to do your best is a waste.

Making the double-edged sword single edged with the right balance has a greater probability of yielding the desired result.

Have faith

You should focus on things you can control. But what about things you can't control? What can you do to eliminate worrying about them? The answer here is faith. You need to believe that everything will go well no matter how bad it might seem at the beginning. Having faith eliminates a lot of worries in your life and gives you the attitude to take better control. It disciplines you and gives you peace of mind.

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