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Sunday, 6 April 2014





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Renew ambitions during New Year holidays

I know you are in a holiday mood and reading serious stuff is the least focus, so let me be brief and relevant this week. A significant feature during the New Year is togetherness and sharing. The moment you think of giving or receiving what comes to mind is material gifts that you can touch and feel.


Giving intangibles make more sense and helps people beyond instant happiness you get when you receive or give a material gift. Life doesn't end with one day's celebrations.

Life is short. We won't get to celebrate too many traditional New Years like the one next weekend. How can we make the holiday season a more fruitful one? How meaningfully can we spend this holiday season to make our lives better and help others to achieve the same for the long term?

Find time to spend with your family reflecting on 'what went well' and 'what didn't go well' - prepare a list and ask the question why and figure out what changes are needed to make higher percentage of activities work as envisaged.

Such an audit will help you discover new ways of doing the same old things better for greater results and also figure out new areas of focus for the family. It can range from your career to children's education to making or giving up relationships.


We need new perspectives, insights, ideas and energy and motivation and time and lots of other intangible things that can't be bought off the shelf. Happiness is in the hearts and minds of people not in materials.

It shouldn't limit itself to traditional holidays or statutory holidays. It can sometimes be found on the most ordinary of Mondays. Some times it just blows in like a swallow.

Sometimes when you want it most you can't have it. And sometimes you're up to your elbows in it. The holidays do not have to remain rigidly the same, year after year.

By opening yourself up to change and letting go of traditions that have become too difficult or expensive, you afford yourself an opportunity to shape your holiday experience to reflect your present lifestyle and personality and learn something for the future.

Renew friendships

It's what holidays are really about - the chance to properly renew friendships and spend long-overdue time finding out what's going on in everyone else's life. So a gathering of friends is always a nice surprise to spring on someone. The holiday season, is typically, a time when extended family members spend more time together.

Leaving normal routines, hectic travel and decreased personal space can all lead to conflict with the family members you ironically, want to enjoy with.

Offer and receive feedback - exchange ideas - mentor others or be mentored by someone who has something to offer you. There is no better opportunity than the holiday season to interact with people with an open mind. Enjoy what you do but also find time to try out what I have advocated.

I'm sure you will discover new ways of improving your life while helping others with your new insights. This would offer sustainable happiness versus a gift offering instant happiness. A good balance between the two may be a good start.

Celebrate the New Year and enjoy the holidays safely and meaningfully.


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