Confident People Donít ........
Do you want to be happy? Do you want to be successful? Depending on
how you define Ďhappinessí and Ďsuccessí, confidence could be the key.
Thatís because confident people believe in themselves, and they donít
participate in activities that degrade their spirits. Check out some of
the things confident people just donít do.
They Donít Judge or Gossip About Others
ďWhen you judge another, you do not define them; you define
yourself.Ē Ė Wayne Dyer
Confident people donít feel the need to engage in unnecessary drama.
donít talk about friends behind their backs, they donít rush to quick
judgements, and they certainly donít participate in gossip. Confident
people want others to be confident, too, and they are more interested in
building others up than tearing them down.
They Donít Act Full of Themselves
Just because someone has a big ego doesnít mean heís confident in
himself. A person who brags about his accomplishments every chance he
gets and constantly talks only about himself may seem confident on the
outside, but what heís really doing is seeking praise and approval.
Truly confident people find their worth from within, so they wonít go
around telling others how great they are. If they are truly great, they
know that others will see that without having to point it out.
They Donít Obsess Over What Others Think of Them
ďRemember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.Ē Ė
While a confident person may care about how he presents himself in a
business or casual setting, he isnít looking for other people to tell
him how he should think, nor does he let those who try to tear him down
affect his opinion of himself. Truly confident people only let
themselves define who they are and how they should feel.
They Donít Compromise Their Values
If youíre truly confident in yourself, that means youíve put
confidence in your belief system as well. Confident people will live by
these values, and they wonít compromise them for the sake of something
desirableówhether itís a friend or a job. Defining and following your
values also builds confidence as values give you a purpose (whatever
those values might be).
They Donít Focus on the Negative
ďIf you look at what you have in life, youíll always have more. If
you look at what you donít have in life, youíll never have enough.Ē Ė
Not every confident person is an optimist. Many look at life through
a realistic lens. Whether an optimist or a realist, you wonít find
confident people in a constant state of pessimism. Confident people know
that focusing on the negative wonít get them anywhere. Instead, they
make use of the positive, and they donít let negative thoughts control
They Donít Need to Be Right All the Time
Someone who seems to know everything about everything may seem
confident in his opinions, but he could just be looking for approval by
trying to appear smart. Truly confident people are willing to admit when
theyíre wrong, and they know this opens them for opportunities to learn.
They Donít Let Failure or Fear Hold Them Back
ďToo many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our
fears.Ē Ė Les Brown
Confident people are willing to push the boundaries of their comfort
zone because they know that stepping outside of it will help them learn,
grow, and succeed. They understand that sometimes, the thing they fear
doing is the same thing they need to do, but they go for it anyway.
They Donít Overcomplicate Things
A lack of confidence can cause us to fill our lives with lots of
activities in an attempt to find fulfilment in the adrenaline-fuelled
lifestyle or so that we donít have to face our insecurities. Confident
people know what makes them feel whole, and they are able to prioritize
and balance their lifestyle in a way where itís okay to say no so they
can experience the things in life they truly care about.
They Donít Assume Theyíve Reached ĎPeakí Confidence
To be confident does not mean that youíve hit a max. You donít have
to have 100 percent confidence in yourself to live a truly confident
lifestyle, and people who are actually confident understand that they
still have room to grow.
They Donít Blindly Accept That They Have to Live By All the
ďIt is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought
without accepting it.Ē Ė Aristotle
A truly confident person is unlikely to get offended by this post
because he knows that he doesnít have to accept a strangerís advice to
love himself as he is. Confident people are open-minded to new ideas,
but they also take the time to consider whether or not they agree. In
other words, donít take my word for it; just remain confident in your
confidence and you should be good to go!
(Alicia Rades is a freelance writer and blogger who
has a passion for sharing practical advice to help others succeed.)