Trapping Mr or Ms Right
If you are new to the dating scene - a regular or just simply someone
trying to meet someone new - there should always be time for top dating
tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating
experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others.
And
no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be
blissfully happy - which they are not everyone’s cup of tea. Good
looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the
heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in
matters of romance.
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the
trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating
tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you
should always bear in mind along the way.
Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in
stone and different things will always work differently for different
people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice
that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating my top 10
tips here.
Top 10 dating tips
1. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the
dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be
ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won’t work. Also prepare for
some let downs along the way but don’t take dating too seriously either.
2. Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a
gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut
or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment.
Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million
times more confident about yourself.
3. Do shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new
look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but
one that flatters you. Don’t go overboard and look like someone you are
not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or
cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
4. Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales.
Do you see yourself married within two years? If you do, then approach
dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don’t take dating too
seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are
dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask
yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
5.Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first
four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things
that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends to
attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties
in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
6. Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don’t aim low but
do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole
package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking
for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous
then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.
7. Work out in advance where in your neighbourhood you are likely to
meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups,
anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of
partners you are looking for. Ya, it’s a cliché but you will not meet
people by staying indoors.
8. Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or
causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging
the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an
absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.
9. Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and
socialising and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals
who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are
interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends,
you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
10. Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and
enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. The longer a person is
made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love
may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and
emotions may never have had the time to develop. |