Whither modern mother’s
by Anushka NANAYAKKARA
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Women in general speak of respect of nothing but the nature which is
within themselves. But due to the increasing consumerism it shows how
women’s ‘nature’ is struggling to meet the values of the nature of
‘mothering’, such as lack of affection and sensitivity for their
children. The economical, social and cultural shifts are taking place
within a larger political context, especially in the developing
countries.
Majority of the people say that women are responsible for the
well-being of a family. Modern women get caught to the waves of
consumerism and they tend to forget their responsibilities as mothers.
Knowingly or unknowingly they get transformal into a modern mother
where they begin to reach only for the materialistic things in life, As
a result what ever the things that may come across in there lives they
see it in a materialistic perspective.
Being a working mother is definitely a challenge. But there are ways
and means to make it easier. Few examples to overcome are to try and
find a bit more flexibility in your life, feel less guilty about working
motherhood, make sure you know your rights and perhaps find a bit of
time space to conquer your own mind.
The most difficult thing is guilt; learning to accept that the people
will criticise you for being a working mother and not staying at home to
look after your children. It is important to ignore the criticism and
have faith in yourself that you’re a good mother.
I once came across with a mother of one daughter. She is presently
working abroad and came down to take her child there. I would see her
now as a settled woman in the criteria of consumerism.
Few years back she was a woman full of values as a mother. Why I say
so would be understood after reading this article. Few months back this
particular mother I mentioned earlier decided to leave the country for
good with her family.
On the day of their departure the daughter started vomiting heavily.
As she couldn’t controlled herself until she reached the bathroom she
accidentally threw on to a bag which they were supposed to take when
leaving.
The mother was more concerned about the bags instead of helping the
child out. I remember the same mother few years back was rushing to the
doctor at mid night with the same daughter as she had a general cough.
She gives the children right examples to be thrifty but she has
forgotten to teach them the values to respect man kind. Does this mean
that the materialistic things in life could give a complete world to
them? Is this the fault of the modern mother? In western part of the
world the people are not struggling with financial crisis like in third
world countries.
In western countries until the age of eighteen they provide their
children with all necessities and after reaching the age of eighteen
they consider them as adults. Then they give them the freedom to decide
what’s best for their future in all aspects.
This does not mean the family ties would break. In such countries
majority of the working women lead a balanced life as there is less
stress when it comes to support their families financially.
In most of the developing countries the situation is the other way
around where both parents are being forced to work, to over come the
hard way of life.I have come across certain mother’s who have refused to
breast feed their babies.
These kind of mothers are more concerned about safeguarding their
figure. They even consult the doctors to get advice to feed their
children using artificial powdered milk. Most of the doctors do not
allow the mothers to do so atleast for couple of months.
Few decades back the women gave birth to dozens of children without
considering about their figures they were interested on values of
motherhood.
There is no doubt the culture we have been brought up is ample with
values of motherhood. The argument is, how we could protect the values
of motherhood while accepting the world
Globalisation? The methods are easy as long as one is willing to
follow it’s steps. As long as your desires in life are limited and if
one would not run after world luxuries it is not a hard task to win this
challenge.
A simple way of living, following your religion whatever it is and
mastering or rather be close as possible to mother nature would be the
finest way to overcome the struggle between motherhood and consumerism. |