Grrr... we are sick of these questions
Ramazan isn't just a time where millions of Muslims fast - it's also
a time when the women are subjected to ignorant and irritating
questions. Radhika Sanghani lists the worst:
Every year, a significant proportion of the billions of Muslims
living in all parts of the world celebrate Ramazan - the ninth month of
the Islamic calendar.
This year it began on June 18 and will finish on July 17. For these
30 days, those Muslims observing the festival will fast during daylight
hours.
That means no food, liquids, smoking or sex. They can eat and drink
two meals a day - before dawn and after sunset - but that's it.
Most people who fast have been doing it for years, and it doesn't
drastically affect their daily lives. They'll still go to work, or look
after their families.

Palestinian women prepare sweets for sale ahead of Eid al-Fitr,
which marks the end of the holy month of Ramadan in the West
Bank city of Ramallah Photo courtesy REUTERS |
The only difference is they'll be doing it on less fuel, and they'll
be forced to hear the opinions of everyone around them.
For women, it can be even worse as they'll be subjected to a very
specific set of questions that most of them are sick and tired of
hearing.
Here are some of the worst offenders I've collected via social media
and from speaking to Muslim women:
'Do you lose lots of weight? You must look so skinny at the end of
it.'
Firstly, this is not the point of Ramazan. In Qu'ran it says Muslims
should fast "to attain Taqwa [God-consciousness]".
Secondly, starving the body of food can lead it to burn fat and
eventually lose weight - though it still requires healthy eating, with a
balanced diet. But in some cases, people will actually gain weight if
they consume large portions of calorific food when they break their
fast.
'Why have you stopped fasting?!'
Muslim women cannot fast when they have their periods - instead they
make up those days at a later date. Chances are that if a woman was
fasting but suddenly stopped, it's because she's menstruating and
probably doesn't want to discuss that with the whole office.
Anisa Subedar, a radio producer, tells me: "I don't fast when I'm on
my period because God understands how dreadful I'm going to feel and how
all I want to do is bury my face in a plate of doughnuts."
'What do you do if you're pregnant?'
Pregnant women and those breast feeding don't have to fast, according
to Islamic texts. If they want to, they can discuss it with their
doctor.
Do you have to cover your hair because you're fasting?
Subedar says people often ask her this. Her response? "No."
Wearing headscarves or niqabs is not related to fasting for Ramasan.
'I thought you were too intelligent to fast?'
It shouldn't need saying but intelligence, or a lack thereof, has
nothing to do with Ramazan. People who fast do it out of a sense of
religious duty.
'Should you really be going to the gym?'
If people are eating healthily when they break their fast, it's
really their choice.
'If you eat your lipstick do you break your fast?'
"No - make-up doesn't count," Subedar explains: "It's all about
intention (niyaah). If my intention was to constantly graze on my
lipstick to get me through my fast then it probably negate my reasons to
fast. Besides, lipstick isn't particularly nutritious."
And for good measure, here are a few more pesky questions and remarks
Muslims of both genders loathe:
'Are you hungry?'
Probably, but you reminding them doesn't help...
'It's so wrong - I couldn't do it'
"Try it," says Subedar. "You'll be amazed at what your body is
capable of."
'Why should you get allowances at work?'
'God wouldn't care if you ate'
'Not even water?!'
Nope. Not even water.
- The Telegraph
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