Dear Erica
Dear Erica,
I’m a 25 year-old boy without a job even though I’m educated. I
completed my A/L in accountancy and AAT intermediate level. I worked in
a private company for two months and left. My relations told me that I
can’t stay in one job for a long period and I always try to find better
jobs with a good salary but the problem is I’m getting too lazy to find
a job. I’m watching movies, TV series, spend my time with friends and I
know I have the skill to do absolutely anything. My girlfriend is also
doing a job but not me. I’m in middle of the crisis. Please advise.
- Lost
Dear Lost,
This is a common problem that most of us go through these days. It’s
also true that when you believe that you’re educated and skilled enough
to go to a higher level but stuck in a lower scale, one can easily get
frustrated. But you should come to terms with accepting that success
does not come easily and that you should have the motivation and
willingness to achieve them.
My advice would be that you should first set yourself some realistic
goals to start with; the start is always not easy. It’s the hardest part
you’ve got to get past and fight through. The more you preoccupy
yourself with watching TV, movies and hanging out with friends, the more
you’re going to lose your inner drive and not utilize your skills in a
proper way. So aim higher but you’ve got to put it into action, work
hard and be patient. So better start updating your CV and send out your
applications before you realize that you’ve run out of time and energy!
Who knows there might be something big in store for you! All the best!
Dear Erica,
I’m a 31 year-old in a stable job and I’m love with a 16 year-old
girl. I used to be a drug addict and after she came into my life
everything changed. I quit drugs and now I’m 100% clean. I did this
because I love her so much and don’t want to cheat her.
I love, respect and admire her because she has plenty of good
qualities. Though we both love each other very much, sometimes I think
if this is possible? In order to marry her, she has to complete her OL
and her AL exams. By that time, I will be older and at the same time I
have no intention of ruining her studies. Will her parents accept me
because of my age? I don’t want to lose her. I want to spend the rest of
my life with her. Only problem is “age”. So please HELP!
- Age Factor
Dear Age Factor,
The age barrier in relationships depends on each individual’s
perspective of it. A 15 year-old age gap for some may not be a big issue
but it can be challenging. For some, it may cause difficulties as time
passes and for other it may not work out at all. In our society, it will
definitely be an issue of disapproval and denial that you should expect,
especially from her parents. Before you step into any serious
commitment, you both should make sure that your motivations are genuine.
This accounts a lot in your relationship. So take a stand and decide
on what the best course of action is. As of now I think you should
encourage your girlfriend to pursue her studies. As much as you’re
stable and established yourself in life, your partner is in a period
where she’s at a start. Since your relationship is at a starting point,
try to take things more slowly and with precautions, because in
comparison to you she’s less mature, younger and at an age where she
would not give thought to the consequences that may come.
If your intentions are genuine then you should be patient and take
the risk until your partner reaches a stage, where she could take a
steady decision. I believe that you also have a great responsibility in
protecting her as well as her parent’s interests in her. Good luck! |
