Safeguarding a mind that reshapes future
World Children's Day falls on October 1. On this day, most parents
infuse their children with high expectations of life but lamentably
become oblivious to their own duties to the emotional needs of the
At the same time, there are parents who are totally aware of the
child's needs and practically fulfill them leaving no room for the
child's confidence to collapse.
It is most important to remember that if the parents have family
discords or conflicts and are far less concerned about solving them, the
children would invariably fall victim to tragedies.
The children sometimes feel guilty of being the cause for family
tragedy, sink into depression and develop indelible defects of
A child who gets into low spirits due to loss of hope or loving care
is most likely to develop negative mental conditions which undermine his
Strict punishment and harsh expressions of reproach would be a
contributory cause for the child to become a social misfit. Parents who
fail to tolerate the child's behaviour tend to mete out severe
punishment on him totally ignoring the level of his mental capacity.
It is definitely beyond the child's capacity to accept things he
detests or disagrees with.
If the kind of punishment continues for a fairly long time, he will
inevitably end up in complete loss of hope.
Moreover, strict control or coercion from teachers, parental bans and
taboos together with baseless blaming can lead a child to react
The special emotional bond which parents maintain with a selected
favourite in the family, directly affects the 'discounted' child who
gradually realises that he is a family outcast.
Such a child generally manifests a sense of pessimism in practically
everything, lethargy, destructive motives and a marked aversion to
entertaining activities. So, it is best to work with a child in a way
that positively influences and promotes his personality.
Apart from this, children are plunged in to trouble under the ever
increasing competition of education. Naturally, a child inherits
intelligence from his parents or acquires it from personal experiences
both in the family and society.
This rewards him with the basic ability to blend into his
Parents are to create a simple atmosphere for children to develop
intelligence rather than involving them in boundlessly competitive
education. This intense competition may ultimately damage his
creativity, originality, taste and initiative.
As adults, we know the priceless quality of praise, admiration, love
and kindness in its capacity to help a child develop his self
confidence. Some parents mindlessly compare the child with another child
who displays an exceptional talent and thereby inflict a permanent
damage on his self reliance and initiative.
The parents' tone may give him the impression that he is being rated
far less important than that particular child.
The affection, the sense of safety and warmth that come from parents
make the child snuggle on the lap of the family.
Here, he is immensely happy to notice that his parents stand by him
catering to his emotional and physical needs.
The healthy relationship which the child builds with his parents is
the unmistakable foundation on which he bases his relationship with the
However, the parents should be skill full enough to read the moods of
the child and adjust themselves to accommodate him.
A healthy child bred up in the ideal family background is likely to
conjure up a fantastic world that boosts his creative thinking and
Many try to become exemplary parents by feeding their children with
expensive food rather than giving food to nourish positive emotions.
Educationists point out that nothing promotes a child's tendency to
learn more than listening to stories told by the parents.
On the other hand, some are over protective of their children with
little understanding of the child's abilities and the value of allowing
him to act independently.
Sometimes the family may do everything for the child. This is
extremely harmful to his development because every child has the right
to carry on with his unique decision to be independent and creative.
Another ugly feature of the child - parent relationship is the
separation of a child from the parents under reasonable or unreasonable
He may become an emotional wreck if he is left, for the most part of
the day, to the cane of an un-responsive or harsh guardian or a domestic
servant while the parents are away.
The chances of anxiety springing from such separation can be narrowed
down if the child gets an opportunity to associate with others familiar
to him at home.
It is the skill on the part of parents that determines whether a
child would become a blessing or a menace to the society.
The mind of a child is fragile and an apparently unimportant word or
action may permanently damage his initiative and originality.
There should be a fair degree of control over their activities.
But intimidation, coercion and harsh reproaches will not only
undermine his development as a person but also give birth to antisocial
tendencies in him.
Therefore, children's day should not be a mere day of multiple
celebrations but a day to raise awareness of the value of nourishing the
mind of the child.