To Win
It takes more than sportsmanship. In fact! What it
takes, amazingly has the least to do with competition.
by Prasad Abu Bakr
When we look around, specially in the
sports arena; we see winners who have enthralled the world with their
sporting skills that was sharpened mostly on training and total
dedication.
But if one looks deep into their character and personal life you will
see that there are other qualities in these young men and women that
reflect much upon, if one wants to analyze their winnings.
Winning in life is something that gets instilled in our minds from a
very young age. Parents compare their children to others in the
neighbourhood saying how good or bad they are in comparison, be it in
their studies or other skills, at which point the feeling of competition
creeps in to their young minds and it is natural that young blood
refuses to accept failure, at all.
So it is this drive that (though some of us can do without it) keeps
us going right throughout our lives looking
for that winning edge in what ever we do.
Though we strive hard to out-do our classmates at various exams as
students, it seems an absurdity to carry on with that notion through our
adult lives as well. It is best to do things to the best of our ability
rather than carrying on a competition with our colleagues around us.
But what is happening today is that people are either following on a
path of sheer cut-throat competition to reach their goals or try to
follow on the same lines as the ones who are already excelling in the
same field as them.
Both these methods are not going to get one any further than where he
is, because by trying to destabilise somebody else's success their is no
assurance that you are going to shine in his place, unless you can do
better than him. By trying to copy and thread along the same lines as
the one who is already their, you are not going to impress anyone
because managements don't look for replacements when it comes to
promotions, they look for better performance skills.
Sometimes one finds that in most competitive surroundings, other than
in fierce sports; so many other attributes go into make up the winning
position that is on offer. as in contemporary international beauty
pageants.
In the past what it took mostly was a beautiful face and a body to
match. But as they advanced, beauty pageants became more demanding, it
laid down a series of mini titles to bring out other attributes of
contestants besides beauty.
Well mannered attitudes and personal deportment, artistic and
creative talents and the kind of broader view that they see in life,
Their attitude towards other fellow contestants and the good they intend
to part with if they win the crown are some of the matters that are
taken into count today if contestants are to win a pageant.
So it is proving that they are not only judging the outer charm that
is plainly visible but they are also analyzing the inner goodness too of
whom they think fit to carry the crowning glory of friendship, peace and
goodwill to the world.
So even if we strive and appear work hard in the eyes of our
managerial higher-ups, the goodness that we dispose of in our daily
lives can also play a major bit when it comes to the crunch of things.
As in the case of Aruna and Anil.
They both worked as executives and were on line for the same job
promotion in the near future. Aruna was the workaholic, never giving up
always on the move to gather new techniques to further his knowledge in
his field of work. In fact every one in office saw how capable he was
and hard he strived to perfect his subject, working late, not
socialising. In fact he was more in office than at home.
All this made young Aruna always busy. thinking to himself, he hardly
had time for others. which meant that he hardly had time to even listen
to others and follow-up with a bout of good conversation at least.
But Anil was the opposite, though he knew how important that
promotion is for him and his family he just continued attending to the
need of the day, being always the one to deliver to his boss what he
asked for on time.
Anil was also of a pleasant nature and was on good terms with most of
his colleagues, saving his time to face the day as it came rather than
spend hours on end striving to possess something that is still yet to
come. But he attended to his work with punctuation and perfection, only
giving it what it will call for on a daily basis and what will
eventually matter to his management.
In the end the latter won the race, as the management found that he
can deliver the goods rather than have someone like Aruna who was only
visually impressive but lacked the practical sense to deliver what his
management demanded of his job on a daily basis.
So this is one small incident that bases evidence against the fact of
striving and killing ones self to get to the top. It also proves that it
does not necessarily enable one to get there.
Competition can look good on you as long as you are young enough to
wear it. But as one matures there are a lot of factors that can come
into play, as in case of being pushed towards to face different
challenges.
It should be with a open mind and an approach that does not make us
look immature that we should make our moves. If we are old enough to
make room for others who are younger to us or more capable than us then
it should be done humbly and readily.
Sometimes one can see in the arena of sports many leading star
athletes and sportsman who has got up there and are thriving in shining
armour for their ability and talent. But as one gets to know these
people better, one realises that these people have not got there all by
blood and brawn alone. Their is a major humane side to their success
story. Those are the very same qualities that will also help them to
sustain their stardom.
When one makes headway in life it is important to remember certain
finer things that will enhance those achievements. As much as we strive
to steer ahead by mastering the technical side of the field that we are
working in, we must also look at other aspects, like certain religious
values that we believe in and social disciplines that we have to adhere
to.
Our onward march towards our goals
should be based on our own merits and not by hindering somebody else's
journey ahead. It is also important that the best shots are given
towards the purpose of winning over ones aspirations and not sitting
idle being jealous of another's success.
Once you are at the top it will serve well to remember ones peers and
superiors that helped one to achieve those goals. Do not ever harbour
old grudges, avoid the motive 'Help ONLY the one that has helped you'
try to dispense favours to anybody and everybody in need of them, within
your purview.
Living surrounded by a feeling of general well being, not only for
your self but also for others and fostering good will around you. Though
they may not be features that can make you achieve a winning position
all by themselves they can weigh hard upon in its favour.
There are times we have read about international personalities, be it
an actor, singer or sportsman and how they have lived isolated lives.
Winning, instead of bringing them closer to their families have driven
them apart. Their is a story of a leading soccer player who divorced his
wife and lost his children in the process, he was later charged for
possessing drugs and having brawls at night clubs.
His younger days were spent practising and striving to become one of
the greatest soccer players and he achieves it. But at what cost? at the
cost of loosing his family and probably old friends. At the end of his
career the well known soccer star of yesteryear breath his last sans his
family beside him in a clinic far away from home. So is this the success
that we want to achieve?
An up and coming actor who went begging for a role from one film
directors home to the other lived his youth with the support of his
girlfriend who was only a stewardess at a restaurant. As times went by
his good looks and charisma made him one of the most well known and
richest actors. Later he married his girlfriend and had three children
together.
As his super-stardom boomed he fell in love with a sprightly newcomer
and left his family to marry her. The marriage did not last too long.
Not being able to stand the young actresses betrayal and the
embarrassment he had to face the actor became a habitual alcoholic.
Struck by loneliness and rejection he suffered a major stroke and
suffered by it for over six years before he had yet a second stroke to
which he succumbed and ended his life in the most pathetic manner which
he would never have anticipated when he set upon the journey to stardom.
Can we analyze this as success?
Then this final example of the little girl who was fiercely oriented
towards being trained as a soprano by her mother. All her young life was
spent on training her voice for the job which ultimately landed her in
the highest position as an opera star. But she grew a resentment towards
her family when they sought financial help from her, while she was
reigning in the position of the highest paid opera star.
As a result she severed all ties with her family compelling her
mother to seek work as a nanny to a wealthy family to make ends meet.
In later years after many scandalous liaisons the singer ended her
life by committing suicide of an overdose of tranquilliser's. Was this
the winning edge that she was seeking all her youth?
They are vivid and numerous, the many people who were driven by this
obsession to win, their triumphant moment of achievement and their
inability to share the joy with their loved ones. It is dangerous to
blind your eyes with success and power, arrogance will only get you
down.
It is our duty to encourage our youth to strive and win at all cost,
it is as important that they learn to achieve these goals, as stated
earlier in this article, at the expense of their own ability and hard
work sans jealousy and hatred. They must be thought to share there
success with their family and friends.
People who do not adhere to these rules too can win, they may also
enjoy there success all by themselves sans friends and family, turning a
blind eye to the needs of others and taking revenge from anybody who
have failed them while they were struggling to achieve what they have.
But what they should realize is that at the end of it all. What they
would eventually end up having is a throne to sit on and a crown to
wear. But, without a kingdom; to rule. |