Center of attraction !
Now let's be honest. Very few of us are going to see our names up
there in the lights, except in our dreams. But does that matter? All you
have to do is figure out what you want to do with your life and then do
it better than anyone else out there.
All of us have fantasised about being the head-turner, the one who is
always surrounded by attentive people, the one who is always clearly in
charge of her life, that we are the belle of the ball, regardless of
what and where the ball may be.
We have to start with a fundamental fact - stars are made, not born.
Remember this. And, anyone of us can become a star if we work towards
it. However, we need to follow some basic rules. Start now. It's never
too late. So, are you ready to take on?
Find out whatever it is that you are good at. That done, commit all
your energy and time to it and enjoy doing it. How do you find out?
Completely honest self-appraisals and inputs from detached, well
meaning, intelligent others would be the cornerstones of this process.
Don't fake a talent you don't have or struggle with whatever choices
you have made so far because it will remain just that - a struggle. That
way, forget about being the star of your life, you'll be lucky if you
even feel like an extra.
This corollary to rule one says you have to ask. Ask friends, mentors
and close family members, and you will get some very insightful
perspectives about yourself from them.
A certain girl reached a crossroads in her life. She was struggling
with the corporate thing and was making herself miserable in the
process. So she figured out she had nothing to lose and e-mailed all,
asking for a frank appraisal based on a few questions which went like
this:
1. What are my best qualities?
2. What are my worst qualities?
3. Is my present career choice in alignment with 1 or 2?
4. If you could choose a career for me, what would it be?
The answer to questions 3 was 2, and virtually all of us agreed that
she was a complete outdoor girl, environmentally obsessive and
green-thumbed.
To cut a long story short, she jumped out of the corporate safety
net, took the plunge, and today, she runs among the most successful,
environmentally safe nurseries I know of and is on her way to making a
mini fortune. One more happy star of her own life script.
Think and plan success. It may not happen tomorrow or even next year.
But in a three to five-year span? Absolutely. Just be patient and
steadily work towards it. Make the time-bound plan reasonable, and then
work on it.
Every skill and contact used constructively, every task accomplished
well, goes to make you # 1. Don't be afraid to fail.
If anyone tells you that they have gone through life without
failures, then just say hello to the world's biggest liar. Just accept
that we have a democratic right to make a mess, that messes can be
cleaned up, and that we have to get up, dust the dust off so to speak,
and get on with it.
Seek the spotlight the right way. But that, I mean assertively and
with self-assurance. Be a physical presence stand straight, dress well,
treat every social occasion as an opportunity.
Choose your words wisely but say them! Being entertaining and
self-confident means you'll get invited back again. Remember this is not
just about partying, you just might meet that investor who wants to back
your start-up or a kindred soul who is willing to partner you in the
venture you have in mind.
A few stipulations to keep in mind - don't claim to have degrees you
don't have, or to have read books you haven't. Do keep in touch with the
wider world around you, not just your little pond of activity.
And when you are chilling out with your friends, do only that. You'll
lose them very rapidly if you are seen to be exploiting your personal
relationships for fame or glory. Seek help, don't take undue advantage
of friends.
Be nice to people wherever you are on the ladder, especially when
going up. Today's assistant could be tomorrow's boss, or the take-over
tycoon the day after tomorrow.
In any case, whether you are just gathering steam in the role of your
life, or have garnered the plaudits and the goodies, observing these
rules of the game means the script will remain in your control.
Sure, a few adjustments will be necessary, a few dents are par for
the course, a few falls and missed cues are an inherent job hazard, but
in the end, you'll be right out there where you want to be, with the
spotlights fixed unwaveringly on you! |