Don't allow the past to determine the future
Everyone has a story and a past. Some are worse than others. You
cannot change things which are in the past but you can change the part
they play in your future. In one way or another, past experiences have
helped to shape the people we are today.
Past events have influenced our present situation in many different
ways. The past has brought us to the area where we live, it has dictated
the kind of work we are qualified to do and has been a factor in all
aspects, big and small, of how we live our lives today.
Humans by nature are flawed so no matter what your parents did or
didn't do, past does not define your future. To hold on to anger,
resentment, or negative thoughts about the past only keeps you stuck.
You become a victim of your past.
Often, we use our past as an excuse to keep ourselves from pursuing
what we really want out of life. I know it's hard to believe but your
past or even present circumstances do not define who you are as a
At any point it's your choice to make a change in your life.
Sometimes the worst things that happen to us often teach us the biggest
lessons in life. Even if you had a storybook past this would have taught
you more of how you would like your future to be.
If you allow yourself to be present and aware of this very moment you
will notice that the past is just another chapter in your journey. The
future is within your control not the past.
There are people who have experienced traumatic events in the past.
These events have directly influenced their present circumstances but
the extent of the effect the past will have on the future is within each
person's control. A traumatic, tragic or even a mildly unfortunate
beginning in life does not automatically mean that is how the rest of
your life must be lived.
A person's history might reveal that he was brought up by alcoholic
parents who neglected his education. He will tell you this is the reason
he obtained no academic qualifications and today does low paid manual
This is factual information but, if this person goes on to tell you
that the events of his past are the reason he will never achieve much in
life, he is using the past as an excuse.
He is depriving himself of the future he could have if he would let
go of the past. From the position of blaming your past for your present
condition, it is easy to slip into laziness or even an attitude of
You often hear people blaming childhood deprivations for the fact
that they have no hope of achieving anything noteworthy in life.
These people live in an attitude of helplessness and hopelessness
when, in fact, they have as much chance as anybody else of achieving
success if they would stop thinking about the past and allowing it to
fill them with negativity.
Evidence of the fact that the past need not dictate the future can be
found in the life stories of many great achievers. Think of the wealthy
businessmen, leading sportsmen, great scientists, movie icons, super
models and entrepreneurs in all walks of life.
Did they all achieve success, fame and wealth because they came from
a privileged background? Did they all have caring parents, a superior
education and limitless financial backing? If you study their life
stories you will find the answer is no.
Many of these successful people started life in an ordinary or even
underprivileged style but they achieved success because they freed
themselves from the constraints imposed by the past. Don't use your past
as an excuse.
To prevent your past from defining your future, you need to put it
firmly where it belongs - behind you, in the past, a memory with no
power to influence your future. Don't make the mistake of using your
past as the reason or excuse for your failure to achieve your goals.
The past might have led you to where you are now, but it cannot reach
out and hold you back unless you let it. It's time to live the life you
want and not the one anyone tells you to live whether its your parents,
friends or the media.
You don't need justification to pursue the type of life you see fit
for yourself. Your past only defines your future when you give it power.
You and only you have the power to change your life. You need to be
the author of your own book and not allow circumstances, anything or
anyone to stand in your way of making that book the best seller of you.
It is easy to blame your origins for your failures but it is just as
easy to turn your back on your past and create a successful future.
You don't have to change anything apart from your own outlook. By
thinking differently, you can steer your future in the direction you
want to go.
By refusing to think negatively and filling yourself with a positive
attitude, you can achieve any goal you set for yourself. Learn from your
past, rejoice in the present and be excited for what the future may hold
There is a world of possibility waiting for you to take it.