Darling we aren't too
old, though we pass the Jubilee Gold
'Her singing mesmerised me'
Chandra was just mesmerised. He could not take his eyes off her. She
was singing, just as it was sung originally by Ruby Murray. Her
melodious captivating voice almost made him lost. He stood like a Greek
statue, and took him sometime to get over the trance he was deeply gone
All these days he had been admiring her beauty, and then her
qualities and demeanour. But never knew she was gifted with such a
beautiful voice. Chandra fetched her to his Castle Street home with the
intention of introducing her to his family. His elder brother and family
landed back home from England after sometime. To celebrate their arrival
the family had arranged a get together. So Chandra thought it would be
the ideal occasion for him to introduce Theera to his people.
"We had a marriage, but not a wedding," says a man who was bold to
choose his life partner from a different racial group. "I'm a Sinhala
Buddhist and she is Tamil Hindu," says Chandra who will be celebrating
the golden jubilee wedding anniversary with Theera exactly tenth day
from today - on July 25....
"When Chandra wrote to my parents in Jaffna declaring his love for
me, my father was neutral, but not my mother. She got really upset and
would almost imprison me at home when I went there on a holiday. However
I escaped after convincing her with all sorts of excuses and came back
to Colombo," says Theera.
However Theera's mother hurried up looking for a suitable partner for
her eldest daughter from their own Tamil Hindu community. She thought
since Theera was entangled in love with a man in the medical stream (and
also she too was in the same stream) it would be better to find someone
of a similar profession. But to her marvel, the matchmaker brought a
proposal of a dentist, of the same profession of Theera's lover.
She proudly informed her 'Mootha Mahal' (eldest daughter) about the
new suitor she found for her. Theera got nervous. So, Chandra decided to
meet his 'competitor'. "Are you really interested in getting married to
her" asked Chandra.
"Well, it was my uncle in Jaffna who arranged this proposal for me.
Still I haven't seen the girl. I am happy you came to meet me and
expressed your feelings boldly. If you two are that much interested in
each other why not go ahead and get yourselves registered?" suggested
the 'Tamil suitor'.
The 'Sinhala suitor' was startled as it was something that he never
expected. "What a great idea!" he tried to collect his thoughts.
That evening at the coffee shop benevolent Chandra had a long story
to tell Theera. In between he was cheerfully adding the dreams he had
been having of their future. But Theera was not that amused. There was
something pricking her mind. "Are you sure that he would not inform my
mother that we might end up getting married secretly" she asked.
"Oh, come on Theera. He sounds good," said Chandra. "But I have a
feeling that though he has suggested that and pretended he is supporting
us, later he would pass the message to my people once he goes back to
After two days Dr. Nelson, Second-in-Command of the Dental Institute
of Colombo along with his wife were seen driving up the St. Sebestian
Hill and stepping into the Registrar General's Office, Colombo. Chandra
and Theera were getting married under a special licence. Mr. and Mrs.
Nelson were the witnesses at their marriage. "We had a marriage and not
a wedding," repeats Chandra after 50 years.
After the registration, and having a delicious meal with the Nelsons
the couple went back to their boarding places as if nothing had
happened. Theera was recalling how she prayed the whole of the previous
night. "Please, let me be able to get the best answer by morning," she
pleaded. "I was going against my people though Chandra's family was
quite positive. I didn't tell anybody. I didn't know to whom I prayed,
as I did not want to put anybody in trouble over my decision," she
Theera's suspicion was right. On the following day, her mother almost
flew from Jaffna to Colombo in the 'Yaaldevi' train. But she was too
late, her 'Mootha Mahal' was no more a 'Miss. Arumugam', but 'Mrs.
However after all, it was an unbearable situation to a mother who had
many dreams and hopes upto the sky of the most beautiful day of her
daughter's 'Kalyanam' (wedding). She sobbed and sobbed. And then tried
almost to abduct Theera back to Jaffna in rage.
Theera who had just returned from office to her boarding place was
really sorry for her mother. But! she loved Chandra. Nothing could
separate her from him. Eliyapurage Alwis Chandra Tissa Fernando was born
on Valentine's Day - February 14 in 1925. His father, E.A.Fernando was a
resident from Hambantota who became a successful plumbago merchant. His
mother was Kanda Uda Dewage Euvisinia Fernando. Chandra was the fifth
out of 11 siblings in his family.
He was studying at Royal College when the Second World War broke. "We
were living in Castle Street, Borella. When the Japanese bombed Ceylon,
one of the bombs fell into the General Cemetery (Kanatta). Almost all
the residents in our (Borella) area started moving inland, so my parents
also decided to do so. We moved to a rented place at Awissawella,"
For Nearly about two years, Chandra's family was at Awissawella. The
whole set of children of Alwis Fernando's family who were born and bread
in the city, were enjoying the village life thoroughly. Chandra's father
lost his Plumbago business due to the War, changed his trade to
jewellery. he was the owner of E. A. Fernando Jewellers at No.49,
Chatham Street, Colombo.
Chandra was admitted to Ananda College, Maradana where he excelled in
the science stream and entered as one of the seven students of the batch
in to the Department of Dentistry at the University of Ceylon, Colombo
which then shifted to the University of Peradeniya.
Theera Arumugam was born on February 10 in 1932 to a teacher couple
Sinnathambi Arumugam and Thangaratnam Thambiah. "I have one younger
sister. I was born in Singapore as my parents were teaching there. I had
my education first at Fairfield Girls School, Singapore, and then at
Urumpirai Hindu College, Jaffna. Urumpirai was my village which was
situated between Palali and Jaffna town," she says.
Theera did her Higher School Certificate (HSC) at St. John's College,
Jaffna. "Those days the trend in Jaffna was to send the girls to India
for higher studies. But, my mother was reluctant to send me off. But
after my London Matriculation I just applied for a government
scholarship in UK for physiotherapy, and got it. Uncle Sivaratnam who
was a government accountant was my mother's cousin. He was staying at
Edmonton Road, Kirullapone.
Whenever we came to Ceylon from Singapore or vice versa we used to
land at his place before we went to Jaffna. He was a progressive man who
encouraged both boys and girls to have higher education. He somehow
convinced my parents and got me the opportunity to go to London. Also,
later when I was working I was staying in his place.
When my mother was playing hell over my marriage it was he who calmed
things down and settled everything. He had been on my side," she
The four year period (1952-1956) of her stay in England at the School
of Physiotherapy - St. Thomas Hospital was extremely enjoyable and
memorable period. "I never saw a string of colour bar among anybody
there. Even whenever we stepped into a shop, the shop keeper would say,
'Oh! hello, are you from Sri Lanka? I have visited there once. Nice
country and hospitable people.' Sri Lanka was under the British reign.
During the time of the Second World War. Due to these two reasons
many Britishers had visited Ceylon," she says. Theera still corresponds
with her British batch mate Isobel Adamson Hulbert. "Both she and I are
grand mothers now," laughs Theera.
Theera returned back to Sri Lanka, and started working at the
Department of Physical Science. She was one of the pioneers to open up
the School of Physiotherapy and Occupational Therapy in which she ended
up as the first Principal. Theera was called the 'Mother of
Physiotherapy' by hundreds of her students who have passed out from the
Theera and Chandra met each other at the Department of Physical
Science when Chandra started getting ultra-violet ray treatment from one
of Theera's colleagues for his 'white patch' (Leucoderma) on his lip.
"He knew my boss, Dr. Frank Perera, Physician-in-charge of the
Department of Physical Science.
I had studied in mixed schools, and was quite free with boys. So I
used to talk with him as I did with other colleagues. But admired his
decent and truthful personality," she smiles. "She was pretty, active
and friendly with a beautiful voice. When I first proposed to her she at
once said, 'It sounds that you have not associated with girls that
much'.... So that proved my decency as well, heh! heh! heh!," laughs
"When he proposed I at once said it would not happen as we belonged
to two different racial groups. I could still remember what he said
then. 'Theera, if you can't marry me, then be sure that you will find a
partner who will take good care of you and look after you well.
That's all what I want'... And I felt his deep love towards me," she
smiles. After a few months of their registration, Chandra and Theera
entered into their own nest on rent. In 1964, they built their present
place at Castle Street, Borella in a plot of land which Chandra's father
divided for him. "My father could give a plot of land in Colombo for all
his 11 children.
Now can you imagine of giving such a thing even to a single child of
yours. Everything has gone up like Sky Rockets," points out Chandra. 'Alwis
Avenue' (adjoining the Castle Hospital) where Chandra's family has been
living was named after his father as he was one of the first residents
in the area.
"My father owned the fifth French 'Caltroup' car brought to Ceylon
during the British reign," recalls Chandra.
Dr. Chandra was in the government service from 1956 to 1967, retired
and started his own private practice at his residence. All together he
had worked as a Dentist for 50 years. "I decided to enjoy the full
retirement since last year," he smiles.
Theera retired in 1987, and has been engaged in many voluntary work.
"I worked as a voluntary Physiotherapist for Family Rehabilitation
Centre. I followed the course for Physiotherapy for torture survivors in
Denmark and conducted mobile clinics throughout Sri Lanka for many
Apart from that I have followed many course in Physiotherapy in many
countries including a teachers' training course in England, Bangladesh
and Barcelona," she recalls.
"Ethnic problems and terrorism have never bothered and disturbed our
family life, nor our only daughter Sudeera who is now living in Canada
with her husband and two teenage children. I think the terrorists and
communal minded persons should have used their 'human' energy not to
destroy this country, but to build it up," suggests Theera. "Why can't
us, the Sri Lankans live as one Nation," asks Chandra.
"My father was dead by the time I met Theera. Only one brother of his
was a little against our marriage. Later he apologised to Theera for
that," says Chandra. "His mother, sisters and rest of the family have
been a blessing to us throughout. My mother took sometime to settle her
But my father gave his full blessing saying 'show the world that
inter-racial marriages are a success," reminisces Theera. "However we
looked after both Chandra's and my mother who died leaving their love
and blessings to us in their later stage," concludes Theera.