Violence against women, theme of Womenís Day:
How long more should women endure violence?
Celebrations across the country will be held to mark International
Womenís day which falls on March 8 annually.
It is an undisputable fact that women have come a long way in almost
every industry that operates in the world and they are making their
presence felt in everything that they venture into. But the level of
domestic violence which is still inflicted on women cannot go unnoticed
at any height of the celebration.
Colombo may be regarded as a place where it is assumed all is going
well, but we are culpable to turning a blind eye to a woman living on
the streets being beaten by her drunken husband because we think she has
chosen to tolerate him.
should tolerate violence against women under any circumstance as there
is no excuse for such acts and any attempt to condone such gruesome
behaviour should be considered as justification of such violence!
Women living in slums in and around Colombo, the suburbs or even
villages should be enlightened to protest against domestic violence as
they go through enough difficulty trying to manage between their
multi-faceted roles in daily life, be it as a mother, a wife, a daughter
or a career woman whilst most of their husbands who are ready to raise a
hand to them sit at home, and watch television or take a stroll to a
turf accountantís joint to bet on a horse which can never run in this
I have heard men say when they are questioned about assaulting women,
that they do so to discipline her. How can a sane mind come up with such
an irrational answer is something that leaves me flummoxed. Some also
say that they did not intend to assault women but when they are caught
up in the moment, assault was the right course of action.
It has been found assaulting culture does not only exist among
spouses but also male siblings and that pre-marital partners take the
liberty to assault women who they claim are physically weaker than men.
Sadly, even women propagate violence against women by men. The
conventional feud between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law is
evident in modern society.
Although we sweep this feud under the carpet, it pops up repeatedly
because we have not resolved it yet. Violence against women through such
feuds has been mitigated to some extent, but we are very far from
The truth of the matter is, if a man believes it is acceptable to
assault a woman, that makes him a chauvinist and this mentality really
requires changing. If you find it hard to change it, seek professional
We have tolerated violence against women by their husbands for the
sake of societal norms and we have forgotten what it truly means to take
a womanís hand in marriage. Marriage more than anything means a physical
and emotional safety net for women, so what is the point in exerting
pressure on her to stick with a man who is ready to assault her?
This does not only defeat the fundamental purpose of marriage but
also strips her of her identity and confidence as women get battered by
the assault. Once physical safety is compromised, mental safety only
remains an illusion.
There are men who think treating a woman once in a blue moon to a
candle lit dinner gives them the licence to violate them for a lifetime.
Despite that, women generally like flowers or being told they look
pretty as the bright blue sky. Letís treat a woman like a human being
who deserves respect, compassion and decency.