Aquinas expounds his views on friendship
“Man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from
the mouth of God”
Deviating from the series on Of Grammatology by Jack Derrida, this
week’s column is dedicated to examine the seminal theological thesis of
Aquinas on charity as friendship in relation to recent publication
titled Friendship, the most desirable of all goods, Thomas Aquinas on
charity as Friendship co-authored by Fr.Dr. Ajith Wellington OMI and Dr.
Richard Wolak, OMI.
What is noteworthy in the thesis of Fr.Dr. Ajith Wellington,OMI and
Dr. Richard Wolak, OMI, is that they have established the fact that
Aquina’s ideas on charity as friendship are as relevant in the past as
they are today even though modern society is highly commercialised and
the driving force behind all the activities seem to be the unfettered
quest for material gains. In explaining the status of ‘Friendship’ in
modern highly commercialised society, Fr. Ajith Wellington states, “With
the dawn of modern era, man became busy trying to domesticate nature and
unravel the secrets of both nature and the human.
He was obsessed with success and discoveries. In such a world, the
concept of friendship appears to be in a state of disarray. Contemporary
cultures do not give a prominent place to friendship, and the
contemporary mores indicate to us that ‘friends’ can have numerous
relationships with us; as lovers, lunch companions, colleagues,
acquaintances and political allies. Unfortunately, the concept of man
loving another man, in God, has today become quite alien to the human
mind. Loving someone for his own sake is also not really a quality that
characterises our relationships. Modern society views close
relationships, similar to the relationship between David and Jonathan
and between Augustine and his friend, with suspicion.”
What is obvious is that the nature of modern-day ‘friendship’ seems
to be that of trading partners and relationships are often based on
professional or parochial financial interest and always viewed even
among so called ‘ trusted partners’ with suspicion. The publication
expounds Aquinas’s profound ideas of friendship against things such as,
culture of fake friendships which have virtually inverted core human
values. What is totally absent in those relationships is the self-less
elements in friendship. That is, one seeks friendship for the sake of
friendship and without any ulterior motives.
Aquinas on friendship
The author Fr. Ajith Wellington has brilliantly encapsulated the
cardinal thesis of St. Thomas Aquinas; “Love of friendship sees others
(the person loved) as another self. St. Thomas states that our love of
friendship for another is an extension of one’s love for oneself. One’s
love for oneself is absolutely basic and primary and it can be
considered as the foundation and archetype of all friendly relations.
The extension of one’s love for oneself to the other becomes natural and
easy when the other, considered as another self, possesses actually our
same qualities and excellences, for love springs from the precise points
of agreements.
The idea of similitude is best understood in this context, because
friendship is not a one way thing, rather it is mutually benevolence, or
love of friendship reciprocated. This mutual benevolence can only be had
if both parties possess the same qualities. However, similar at times,
instead of causing love, causes envy and hatred. He distinguishes two
ways in which the one who loves and the one who loved are united: real
union and union of affections. By real union, he refers to the union of
presence where the man who loves and the object of love are present at
the same time and in the same place. This real union is in fact an
effect of love because love effectively moves one to desire and to seek
the real presence of the one loved.”
One of the seminal ideas that the publications presents is the idea
of love as charity or caritas. The author proposes that friendship is a
good that links man to God and that is the prima good. “Friendship, on
the one hand, is only possible with people similar to ourselves and to
those to whom we are bound by goodwill. St.Thomas, in the contra, quotes
‘I will not now call you servants..but my friends’.
Caritas
The reason the Lord called his apostles ‘friends’ is, according to
St. Thomas , purely and simply his caritas. Thus, caritas, as given by
Jesus to his disciples, proved to be friendship.”
One aspects that the publications highlights is the importance of
communication between friends and which is divine between man and God
according to Christianity.
Fr. Ajith observes, “Thus, there exists a friendship between God and
man, and this friendship is made possible by the initiative of God, the
superior one, to share his happiness with man, the inferior partner.
Therefore, St. Thomas is able to affirm that between God and man there
exists a type of friendship because they do have something in common.
This communication removes the disparity that exists between God and man
to same measure, and brings about some kind of similitude, and thereby
provides the foundation upon which the friendship between these two
unlikely partners is founded.
However, there is no obligation: God is not bound to share His
happiness with man. The Divine initiative is not the response on the
part of God to a request by man. In fact, it is offered as a gift. As we
know from our experience, a gift can be refused. As the person who is
giving the gift, is not bound to give the gift, so also the receiving
person is not bound to accept it. Now, in the case of man and God, even
though man is free to accept or refuse God’s happiness extended to him
as a gift, yet the very acceptance of that gift adds another possibility
to man, namely, the possibility of friendship with God. God and man are
infinitely unlike partners having nothing in common. But, God, the
superior partner offers a sharable gift to man, the inferior partner.”
In other words, the author suggests that friendship is even possible
between partners of unequal status as between God and man. Having gone
through a survey of de-tour on the philosophical concept of friendship,
the authors convincingly proved that ‘friendship’ is the prima good of
all goods.
The importance of the publication lies not only in the subject of its
inquiry and fresh insights that it throws into the subject but its
contribution to the scholarship on the philosophical concept of
Friendship and the task fulfilled by the authors in producing knowledge
and making them relevance in modern context. |