Values behind Avurudu rituals help shape society
By Manjula Fernando
Prof. J.B. Disanayaka said the importance of Avurudu is not the
preservation of rituals or customs that had been carried on since the
olden days but preservation of their meaning which symbolises certain
values that help shape a society.

Young girls playing the rabana |
He said customs change from time to time or get replaced by new ones.
“In a world of changes you cannot keep old customs alive for ever.
Therefore, don't go by rituals literally but create your own parameters
to ensure the values behind these old customs are carried on to the
future.”
The Sunday Observer spoke to Prof. Disanayaka, an authority on the
subject as to how Avurudu should be celebrated by the modern families,
mostly city dwellers who have become atheists and pretend to be
culture-less not by choice but for convenience.
Excerpts of the interview:
You cannot go back in time. Things are changing and will change more
in the future. the essence of new year is that it is a time of renewal.
As long as the ties you share with your families, friends and colleagues
are renewed that is all what matters, not being tied up to a set of
rituals. If you eat kevum or you avoid kevum for being diabetic or for
having high level of bad cholesterol, matters little in celebrating
‘Sinhala Avurudda'.
New Year is a time of renewal. You need to forget and forgive, set
new targets, and renew your relationships with family and friends.
But there are certain customs that should be followed than forgotten.
When you cook your first meal at the auspicious time the element of milk
is vital. Milk is a symbol of fertility, so when the first food is
prepared it should be milk rice. When you were born your mother fed you
with milk - your very first meal. That symbolises life and fertility.
This is why I think the first meal of the New Year cannot be replaced
with ‘pizza or hamburger'.
The time of New Year gives a chance for parents including the father
to spent time with the children. This is the only time when you can
defeat your father in a game of play and have a good laugh over it. This
is very important for a child.
Work late
In many families fathers leave home early and come back after doing
‘overtime’ when the children are in bed. He hardly sees his children.
Even during weekend, either the father is working late or the children
are in tuition classes. With the new trend of working mothers, now even
the mothers hardly meet up with their children.
New year is a time where people visit and interact with family and
friends. In that context, Avurudu is an opportunity for bonding. That
opportunity should not be missed.
If you think looking after the needs of your children through a proxy
- a servant or a grand parent- is sufficient in fulfilling your
parenting duties. That is a great myth. Children crave for parents’
presence - their attention, love and care. They don't expect to get
their requirements taken care of by a third party.
It has been a custom to visit the ancestral home during Avurudu. The
brothers and sisters go ‘home’ with their families to see the parents in
the village. This is a time the children cherish. This is the time they
get to see and know their cousins. In some families, so rarely they meet
up, even the first cousins don't recognise each other.

Prof. J. B. Disanayaka |
The success of the society depend on the family. The foundation of
the society is the family unit. If the families collapse, the society
collapses. The New Year rituals and customs strengthen the bonds within
a family and thus a society.
A popular trend today during holidays is to organise long distance
trips. New Year time is no different, people count days for so called
getaways.
Renewing relationships
There is nothing wrong in using the avurudu holidays for pleasure
trips, provided that it upholds the New Year values. The trip can be a
getaway for extended families to get together. The whole idea of avurudu
is to meet up and renew relationships. How you get about it is an
individual choice.
The rituals have a meaning. We offer betel leaves for elders as a
mark of respect. There is no value in betel, it is symbolic. I offer
‘betel leaves’ because we have been offering betel leaves for many
years. betel leaves can be substituted by something else but the meaning
behind this custom symbolises certain ethical values in our society-
respect for elders.
The important thing is to preserve the meaning of your customs and
rituals. In a world of changes you cannot get old customs going on like
that. That is not to say the rituals should be discarded.
In the olden days we had a kitchen where we had a hearth. Now we
don't have such apparatuses in the kitchen. When you say ‘ Liggal benda.
...’ (put up a hearth and prepare milk rice) that means to clean up your
kitchen. Have the place you cook cleaned in view of the dawn of a New
Year and prepare the place to cook your first meal, not to put up a
hearth in the middle of the drawing room.
Don't go by rituals literally, these rituals signifies certain values
and this is the one thing that is important.
In the olden days there was a strong relationship between the temple
and the lay households. Today the life is so busy, that a visit to the
temple is a remote possibility. The monks don't visit households like
the parish priest. During ‘Avurudu’ there is the opportunity which has
been made compulsory by a custom called ‘Punya Kalaya’, to go to the
temple.
Auspicious times
Entire family

Making konde kevum |
As Buddhists we trust that we can acquire merit any time of the day
or year. There is no specific period, but here a time has been set as
Punya Kalaya to ensure that you will not fail to renew your relationship
with the temple. The visit to the Temple is done with the entire family,
sometimes with the extended families.
There are some auspicious time customs that are not very practical,
such as the time to depart to official duty. Sri Lanka was once an
agrarian society.
The farmers used to stop work ahead of the New Year, before nonagatha
time. Resuming work at the auspicious time was no major issue for they
were mostly self employed. Work meant picking up their mammoty or the
axe and walk to the farmland. This custom is not entirely meant for
office-goers.
We are living in a world of knowledge and belief. Even the scientists
believe in god although the god is not visible. In our part of the world
we believe in auspicious moments called Nekath. It is a belief, it may
be meaningful or not. But such rituals and customs inculcate values in a
society and help shape their future.
Fortunately, by and large, Sinhalese and Sri Lankan Tamils still have
a high regard for these customs.
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