How control follows help
What's bad about helping is when the helper later begins to control
Have you heard of senior citizens recall what they believe in are
'those good old days?' invariably leaving one to understand present ones
as the 'bad new ones'.
"Those days are gone men. What do you find today ... all muck no men.
See these boys and girls of today. What values have they got ..." there
Unwittingly then today's elders are comparing the social/political
economic systems that make up the past and present. It is the respective
systems impacting the social whole that brings out two contrastingly
different social groups. This is not to deny the existence of both good
and bad in both. Yet, depending on the intensity of socio/econ/political
conditions will be the relative good and bad states of both times.
Probing into all this was Zoon Lens whose focus grew sharper and
clearer by the second. Now here we go.
People today and quite a number of them have become good samaritans
and at the word 'go' they are more than willing to help. Exuding with a
kind of old world charm, the 'milk' of human kindness will unceasingly
and unfailingly flow from even the most unexpected quarters compelling
the recipient even to a state of self guilt. Now hold it.
I've seen many help people not out of some genuine feeling for the
other but with something up the sleeve. Today's helping hand is not free
of selfish ends. Tainted and sullied with all kinds of ulterior motives,
these people lean forward to help only to bring the recipient into
Matters don't end here. From there onwards the helper tries to even
gain control over the other only to find the recipient itself resenting
such overlordship while the 'good Samaritan' goes about spreading
stories like "oh! I've been so nice. I've helped so much and see this is
all I get in return."
Contemporary times carrying an avalanche of what is seemingly good
heartedness is a survival tactic for it bears nothing short of what is
comprehensive in self-mindedness. The market economy itself warrants
such behaviour. The smiles, backpatting, the Hello, Hai, Bye and what is
believed to be common courtesy are also essential pre-requisites for
survival in the system.
The kind of help and extended courtesy that once was arose from deep
down within the heart's enclaves in the absence of a market economy that
propagated high degree opportunism.
It is against the backdrop of all such that even bookshops began
flooding with publication which promoted self survival.
For instance much has been written around how to win friends and
influence people. 'Self' being the ultimate beneficiary, such writing
fall short of the kind of friendship to be fostered emanating from the
depth of one's being.
Any kind of help be it at individual or international level under
market environs is hardly bereft of accompanying strings. Even in the
exchange of gifts there is much competition and ostentation. One gives
expecting a return unlike in earlier times. In fact a valuable gift is
given expecting another one of extra value.
The networking of social groups centres basically around exchanging
of gifts and self help. Even in helping the needy, at the back of one's
mind is the attempt into merit accumulation. Whether there is a genuine
concern for the needy to relieve them from the clutches of poverty is
much food for thought. Given the selfish angle to all these one could
even posit that the accumulation of merit is possible only until poverty
prevails. Should social equity come in, here then is a 'spoiler' for
those hankering after merit.
Whither merit in a class free society!! Surely only a dream state.
Nevertheless, should it be a reality, not to worry the yet lesser
mortals like cats, crows and dogs are there to be treated with whatever
left overs - merit, merit and merit is all yours for the asking.
Today even administrative orders that are carried out are seen as a
form of offering help. Far too many times have people heard secretarial
women say, "well, I did this specially for you." When all what she has
done was to carry out an administrative ruling. This then is indicative
of expecting that infamous something in return - anything not less, than
an expensive saree, wrist watch could be even a bed spread - all part of
her share of the accumulated 'something' over the years for whatever
'help' she may have delivered which she refuses to acknowledge as
So, here we are - a nation of helpers - receiving or rendering help
not to forget what a great good deal of merit - loads and loads of it
are contained therein with heavens doors springing backwards and
forwards - accommodating only the meritorious ones while shutting out
the rest. Not enough having danced the jig here on earth during their
hay day, some even express the view of merit collection and storage to
be taken come exit time to the other world as well - seemingly a not too
difficult task for those that keep depositing tons and tons of
ill-gotten dirty monies in banks and finance companies.
Wheelchairs, hospital equipment, spectacles and all kinds of the like
are helpful offerings carried out amid high voltage lights and
sophisticated cameras handled by some TV crew.
The giver is all smiles in the face, with the mind itself firmly
implanted in the next elections!! - all merit you see, loverly merit!
Recipients are even tutored into publicly acknowledging the donor's
and their companies!
Who said 'let not the left hand know what the right hand giveth"'
All this is kopi kaaley kathaa no men.
Now its kokaa kola yugey!
Hurrah! So come join us as we take off on this most exhilarating
though nauseating meritorious flight.